Are you having trouble finding the joy this season due to lack of love in your narcissistic family? Try doing random acts of kindness and cookie bombing.
Call it karma, intrinsic law or the circle of life, but we all need to give in order to live. Natural laws like gravity are just reality. Think about how the trees give us oxygen and we give carbon dioxide back to the trees. Rain completes the circle from snow to rivers to the ocean and back to the clouds. Autumn leaves give life to the soil and contribute to life in the spring. Electricity even runs on a circuit. We were created to give.
There are many ways to give—encouragement, love, support, acceptance, unconditional love—all of these are free, but missing in a narcissistic relationship. Narcissistic feed disrupts this life-giving cycle because the giving only goes one way. Like the Dead Sea, the narcissist has stopped giving.
It’s easy to get discourage about giving when people you know have been taking from you without giving, but don’t let yourself become like the Dead Sea–give whatever you can and live–just don’t contribute to the dysfunctional cycle by giving to the narcissist.
There will always be some Christians who misunderstand the debilitating nature of serving a narcissist and they will say that Jesus says to love our enemies. Yes, Jesus taught us to our enemies, but when the crowd wanted to crown Jesus king because He gave them food, He disappeared from their sight instead of feeding them everyday. Giving too much creates dysfunctional relationships.
When we give to those who are not expecting it, we often rediscover joy. This is what Christmas is about–giving like Jesus gave to us. So your mission, should you chose to accept it, is to go out cookie bombing.
What You Need:
- A few extra dollars for drive through
- The ingredients and ability to make cookies
- Curly ribbon and party bags
- Your favorite Christmas tunes
- Follow the recipe below to make some bright and fun cookies.
- Fill party bags with cookies, tie with curly ribbon and crank up the tunes and head out to cookie bomb.
- Start at your favorite drive through and give away a couple bags of cookies to the cashier while paying for the drinks for the people in the car behind you.
- Enjoy your drink and head out to your friends’ houses to cookie bomb. Make sure you bomb as many people as you meet along the way–especially strangers! Whether they are a homeless, young or old, rich or poor, working or playing give them a bag of cookies and let the joy begin.
SUGAR COOKIE RECIPE
2 sticks butter or margarine
2 C sugar
2 t vanilla
4 C flour (sifted)
1 t baking powder
PREHEAT: oven to 350
BEAT: butter and sugar in mixer until creamy
ADD: egg and vanilla and beat until smooth
STIR: flour, baking powder and salt in separate container
ADD: flour mixture gradually to butter/sugar mixture
ROLL: dough into a ball and wrap with wax paper
CHILL: dough in fridge for one hour or overnight
ROLL: out dough and form into cookies
BAKE: for 10-15 minutes or until very slightly brown—Do NOT over bake—some smaller cookies may only take nine minutes
1 lb confectioner’s sugar
5 T meringue powder
Scant 1/2 C water
Wilton food coloring pastes of choice
BEAT: all icing ingredients with paddle in electric mixer until mixed—don’t over mix or it will cause bubbles in icing
SPREAD: immediately on cooled cookies with icing spreader or store in airtight container
You can get squeeze bottles for the icing at a craft store to flood the cookies. Just make sure the first layer drys before adding the second.
Give, and it will be given to you.
A good measure, pressed down,
shaken together and running over,
will be poured into your lap.
For with the measure you use,
it will be measured to you.
-Jesus (Luke 6:38)
Enjoy this new Christmas song by one of my favorite groups Pentatonix :