Enneagram, narcissism, narcissist, self-care, littleredsurvivor.com

How to Do the Enneagram Shuffle

I was Two-Resistant. I’d learned to wash dishes and vacuum before I could write my name and tie my shoes. My mom even called me her “right-hand helper.” Why would I want to be a two? Narcissistic people like to use helpers. "Helper" seemed like just another word for slave. I was doing the Enneagram… Continue reading How to Do the Enneagram Shuffle

Relationship, Self-Love

You are Glorious Scapegoat

I am not a stranger to the dark Hide away, they say 'Cause we don't want your broken parts I've learned to be ashamed of all my scars Run away, they say No one'll love you as you are But I won't let them break me down to dust I know that there's a place… Continue reading You are Glorious Scapegoat


Book Review– Educated: A Memoir by Tara Westover

She had a sociopathic brother, a flying monkey sister, a bipolar or borderline father, and a subversive narcissistic mother. What's a girl to do? Rise up, get educated and get the hell out of town. Educated: A Memoir Author: Tara Westover Publisher: Random House Publication Date: February 20, 2018 Length: 337 pages I highly recommend… Continue reading Book Review– Educated: A Memoir by Tara Westover

Self-Love, Thrive

Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with the Enneagram

When Mayla began to wake up to the narcissism in her family of origin,  she was excited to share with her siblings, but it backfired and they made her the scapegoat because no one else was awake. They weren’t ready to see it, so the more she shared, the more defensive they became in their protection… Continue reading Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with the Enneagram

Enneagram, Enneagram Two, love, narcissism, narcissistic abuse, survivor, self-care, littleredsurvivor.com

What I Did For Love—Confessions of an Enneagram Two

My very first dreams were about people— usually my parents and grandparents, but also the occasional stranger. When I was three years old, my mom had a friend named Gladys who came to visit us. She brought potato chips, and my dad tried to pay her for them. She refused the dollar, and he insisted,… Continue reading What I Did For Love—Confessions of an Enneagram Two

sisters, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, narcissism. dysfunctional families, littleredsurvivor.com
Resilience, Self-Love, Story

Once Were Sisters

Jessie grew up in an enmeshed family. For as long as she could remember, her life revolved around her parents and sisters. Her mother was very protective of them. She rarely let them out of her sight unless they were at school. Jessie and her sisters saw the world as a huge and dangerous place… Continue reading Once Were Sisters

Love, narcissist, narcissism, fake love, abuse, valentine, littleredsurvivor.com
Relationship, Self-Love

Five Ways the Narcissist Might Confuse You About Love

Emy hates Valentine’s Day. Growing up with a narcissistic parent,  she feels there is a love deficit in her heart. No matter how many people love her, she still feels unloved. Emy's best friend Mary keeps saying she should practice self-love so she can open her spirit up to the love that’s already around her.… Continue reading Five Ways the Narcissist Might Confuse You About Love

Relationship, Resilience

Mourning the Living Dead

What would you do if I invited you to a funeral without a casket? You’d probably assume the dead had been cremated, right? But what if I told you they were still alive?  You might call the cops because you’re afraid I’m going to “off” somebody Godfather style. Of course, if you thought either of… Continue reading Mourning the Living Dead

male headship, patriarchy, women's rights, women's equality, ezer, littleredsurvivor.com
Feminism, Male Headship, Religious Narcia

Male Headship 1—How it Feeds Narcissism

Jim believes God ordained him as the male leader to control his family. He's married to a woman who had children before they were together and it's been a struggle for him to allow them to be themselves. He feels it's his religious duty to police them. His efforts include locking the kitchen after bedtime in case the… Continue reading Male Headship 1—How it Feeds Narcissism

Religious Narcia, Women's Rights

Me too, Church too and Time’s Up

Yesterday, I listened to a survivor tell her story. She was molested in her childhood. Her pain was palpable. I wanted to beat up the man who originally abused her and all the well-meaning Christians who further abused her by invalidating her story. Then I read a blog by a Christian woman who added her… Continue reading Me too, Church too and Time’s Up