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June 29, 2018June 29, 2018 Cherilyn Clough

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As a survivor of childhood abuse, I finally discovered narcissism and how it affects every member of the family. If you’ve just discovered what narcissism entails, you have my sympathy, but relax, you’ll soon learn to negotiate all the pitfalls and move from surviving to thriving. Don’t let the Narcissist and Flying Monkeys get you down, because knowledge is power and it’s now your turn to rise!

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Hi Friends, It’s Freedom Friday! No one represents Freedom Friday more this week than the 140 survivors of Larry Nassar who received the Arthur Ashe Courage Award at ESPY. These women found their voices and put their abuser away for life. All it takes to survive is to speak your truth to one person. That’s how each of these women started. They weren’t in a room with dozens. They weren’t even listened to at times, but one by one, they spoke their truth and insisted on speaking their truth. Their cumulative affect was to wake up the Olympic community, the athletic community, the nation, and now the world. MILCK’s song, Quiet, played while they walked out. It’s one of my favorite survivor songs. I deeply resonate with the words and often play it as I light a candle and prepare to work on my memoir each morning. “But no one knows me no one ever will If I don’t say something, if I just lie still Would I be that monster, scare them all away If I let them hear what I have to say I can’t keep quiet, no oh oh oh oh oh oh I can’t keep quiet, no oh oh oh oh oh oh A one woman riot, oh oh oh oh oh oh oh I can’t keep quiet For anyone Anymore” #quiet #survivor #voice #speakup #yourstorymatters #sheroes #littleredsurvivor #freedomfriday #milck

One of the hardest things to do after narcissistic abuse is self care. It seems the narc steals a sense of self or calls us selfish for taking care of ourselves. This is a hot, smoky, firey week in the valley where I live. Some of us have sinus and respiratory issues due to the smoke and fires, others have migraines and through it all we all continue to do our work—of writing, painting, punching a time clock, picking up after kids, offering help to friends. This is a good time to check in for self-care. Nearly everyone I know has sacrificed one thing in their life for another. Some people give up money for freedom, some trade time for money, others of us have sacrificed our health by not exercising or eating right or failing to get a good night’s rest. It’s a not too late friends to take better care of yourself. What can you do today to improve something in your life? It could be picking up that stack of papers and sorting through them so they can be filed away and out if mind. It could be drinking more water and less coffee or pop. It could be taking an extra five or ten minutes to check in with your partner before you both go your ways in a busy day. What is missing in your life? Take action, one step at a time. Never underestimate the power of incremental change. Over time, your body, mind and soul will thank you. Self care is NOT selfish, it gives you more to give to others in the long run. #selfcare #selflove #healthyhabits #loveyourself #keepwriting #keepresisting #littleredsurvivor

Storm clouds darkened the sky and flashes of lightning struck the hills around town as we drove to church. By the time I stepped out of the car, I could smell the damp blacktop as I passed through the negative ions into the building and it felt good. Storms bring people together. The woman pastor greeted each person with warmth. To those who attend this church, storms are nothing new. Some weren’t sure they ever wanted to go to any church again—until this one. The day before temps in the valley hit 105 degrees and this church was offered as a cooling shelter for those who would otherwise be left to the elements. On Sunday, it became a respite from the storm outside. The dark timbers on the ceiling reminded me of an ark. Safe inside, the thunder crashed above us and we smiled at each other. The rainbow banner out front sends the signal that all people are equal within this progressive house of God. We enjoyed an interview with a blind woman. In ancient times those without sight were considered lost because of a false belief that the blind had lost their light. Jesus set the record straight—the faith of a blind person can bring God glory. I used to be afraid of storms and even more afraid of God. I’d been warned that God might strike me with lightning if I disobeyed him. I was taught to suspect any people not like myself—human beings with different orientations, beliefs and ways of being. Then I read George Macdonald’s book about a deaf mute, wee Sir Gibbie, who stands on the mountaintop during the storm because he knows the “Maker of the lightning.” Like Gibbie, I’ve learned there’s no reason to fear the darkness when we can carry the light within us. #bethelight #storm #light #equality #love #peace #notyourparentschurch #safe #Jesus #peace #littleredsurvivor #walkinginthelight

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