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December 6, 2018December 6, 2018 Cherilyn Clough

Cookie Angel

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The Worst Thanksgiving Ever

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Journey From the Cave

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Why You Can’t Let the Narcissist Shut You Up

June 29, 2018June 29, 2018 Cherilyn Clough

Stop Telling Me I Can’t be Political and a Christian Too

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Don’t Let the Narcissist Accuse You of Living in the Past

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God as Our Mother

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If My Wounds Were Visible

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Narcissistic Feed

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Remembering the Good, Even When it’s Bad

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Cherilyn Clough

Cherilyn Clough is a Shanachie, Stargazer, Cat Whisperer and Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse. She’s writing a memoir because what happens in childhood, never stays in childhood.

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It’s Wake Up Wednesday Friends! We all want to have a good relationship with our parents, but at what cost? Are you sacrificing who you are? Are you giving gifts as a pay off? Are you groveling for time and attention? If you said yes to any of the above, it might be worth examining your motives and behaviors. You can’t control your ex or your siblings or your parents—you’re the only person you have any power over. If the narcissist in your life is controlling, it might be time to put on the brakes and find your boundaries. If the narc is in victim mode and ignores you, remember silence is always the best answer when someone ignores your words. You can’t have a healthy relationship with a turnip, but like Brené Brown says, “This doesn't change the fact that you are worthy of love and belonging." Wake up to the empty people in your family, but look for new, chosen family—people who are already waking and are real with the capacity for love. The poet Walt Whitman seems to understand: I am larger, better than I thought; I did not know I held so much goodness. All seems beautiful to me. … Whoever denies me, it shall not trouble me; Whoever accepts me, he or she shall be blessed, and shall bless me. -Walt Whitman #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissism #family #dysfunctionalfamily #selfworth #boundaries #friendsarethefamilywechoose #littleredsurvivor #wakeupwednesday

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Spying on us to see if we are naughty or nice? It’s creepy. And it’s an invasion of privacy. The worst part is when we believe Jesus is like an elf, spying on us and going back to the Father so he can judge us. This false picture confuses people and takes away God’s grace and unconditional love. It teaches children to accept spying and suspicion and leads to an acceptance of a police state. If you’re scared of God or sick at the mention of His name, it might be because you’ve equated God with children’s make believe tales. Jesus is not an elf and the Father is not Santa. Set yourself free from such lies. I’ve recently heard of a Christian denomination which set up five compliance committees so church workers can come under scrutiny for various disagreements from doctrine to how they follow their conscience. This is a false representation of God. Even though God sees everything, he has never come to spy and condemn us. Instead God came in the form of a baby to share our sorrows. Jesus came as Emmanuel—God with us, he came to walk beside us in our pain and shame. Jesus touched people and he let people—men, women and children touch him. Jesus is God’s thoughts made tangible to the human race. Jesus didn’t go back to give the Father information about us. Jesus said he and the Father are one. Jesus even said, “I will no longer pray the Father for you, because the Father Himself loves you. Whether it’s a controlling narcissistic parent or religious leaders trying to shame you or threaten you because you don’t live as they believe, remember Jesus is a friend of the marginalized and shut out. He came to show us that God is love and only love can awaken us to live kinder and better lives The good news at Christmas is not that God rewards the good, but that God is with us. “Where the Spirit of God is—there is freedom.” #elf #elfonashelf #liesaboutgod #narcissisticabuse #spiritualabuse #littleredsurvivor #godislove #freedom #wherethespiritofthelordisthereisfreedom

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