If any man on this earth desires
to claim true Christian headship,
this is what it looks like.
Where equality exists, both men, and women should aim for the goal of serving like Christ.
For those who grew up with the false doctrine of male headship, I have good news for you,
For those who grew up with fathers who were more concerned with being in charge as the head of the home,
For those who grew up with fathers who hit them and controlled them because he was bigger or held all of the power,
For those who grew up with fathers who were more concerned with their own needs than their child’s,
For those who grew up with Fathers who judged you and condemned you when you didn’t follow his religious or political choices,
For those who were belittled and abused under the title of headship,
I offer you the headship of Jesus.
The Headship of Jesus Says:
If you are tired from carrying heavy burdens,
come to me and I will give you rest.
Take the yoke I give you.
Put it on your shoulders and learn from me.
I am gentle and humble,
and you will find rest.
– Matthew 11:28-29
This doesn’t sound at all like the male headship we have seen in most humans.
1. As the Head, Jesus Always Provides
He allows the rain and sun fall on the just and unjust. No matter who you are or what you have done, He will not withhold the blessings of sunshine and rain on you. And He has told us to not worry about tomorrow because He has already planned all of our days and it is taken care of. But because He knows we will have doubts, He says we can ask Him for help.
2. As the Head, Jesus Takes Full Responsibility
For everything that goes wrong. He sent Adam and Eve from the garden to protect them from becoming immortal sinners. He is saving paradise for all who will allow Him to heal us. But even greater, He came and lived among us sharing our pain, took all the responsibility for our messy lives and made up the difference by dying for us.
3. As the Head, Jesus Puts Others Before Himself
Jesus made himself lower than the angels and died the death of a criminal. He does the work of a servant and washes everyone’s feet—not just the feet of Peter and John, but He even washes the feet of his enemies—consider Judas who had already planned to betray him.
4. As the Head, Jesus is Always Honest
This Head never lies or tricks you to manipulate you into doing something for him. Jesus not only calls Himself the Truth, but He always tells the truth and stands on the side of the truth.
5. As the Head, Jesus is Always Inclusive
This Head always welcomes us to eat with Him and He doesn’t wait for us to come to Him, He’s already knocking on our doors. No matter who you are and where you have been or what you have done, if you ask Him for help, He will never shun you or ignore you.
6. As the Head, Jesus Grants Freedom to All
This Head gave us our freedom and allows us to choose if we want to remain in relationship with Him. He even gives us a holiday each week through the Sabbath so we can have free time with Him and each other—and He doesn’t control how we spend that time. God doesn’t stop people from doing bad things. The principle of his government is freedom for all.
7. As the Head, Jesus Empowers
Jesus treats women as well as he treats men. He has as much love for women as men. And that goes for the color of skin or any position in life. Jesus loves all of us equally and bestows His gifts on all.
For those who claim that men should always own the headship of the home, this is the headship of Jesus:
The headship of Jesus is patient,
The headship of Jesus is kind,
The headship of Jesus isn’t jealous,
The headship of Jesus doesn’t brag,
The headship of Jesus isn’t arrogant,
The headship of Jesus isn’t rude,
The headship of Jesus doesn’t seek its own advantage,
The headship of Jesus isn’t irritable,
The headship of Jesus doesn’t keep a record of complaints,
The headship of Jesus isn’t happy with injustice,
The headship of Jesus is happy with the truth.
The headship of Jesus puts up with all things,
The headship of Jesus trusts in all things,
The headship of Jesus hopes for all things,
The headship of Jesus endures all things.
The headship of Jesus never fails.
(1 Corinthians 13:4-8)