Walking Away from Narcissism

May those that love us, love us. And those that don't love us, May God turn their hearts, If He can't turn their hearts, May he turn their ankles So we'll know them by their limping. -An Old Irish Curse Many of us started on this journey of understanding narcissism when we noticed something wrong …

Remember Who We Are

Indigo skies against red and gold leaves brightly dressed children in new coats waiting for a yellow bus crisp apples and butternut squash warm sweaters and cozy fires. This is what September used to mean. Then one day the gray billowed into the sky and drifted across our landscape changing it forever. We said we …

The Nashville Statement and Narcissism

The Christian Right just rolled out a document called the Nashville Statement which includes fourteen articles of affirmation and denial that refer to human sexuality. The people who signed it are far right evangelicals which include John Piper and Wayne Grudem whose names are familiar to me because they are proponents of the false doctrine …

Is God a Feminist?

On August 26. in the year 1920,  the American constitution was ratified and it was confirmed that women had won the right to vote in the United States of America. It hasn't even been one hundred years. Maybe that's why there is so much confusion over the word feminist. All I know is the case …

How to Avoid the Narcissist’s Triangulation Game

Lindsey was tired of her three sisters knocking on her door to tell her what her mother was saying about her new husband. She knew her narc mom didn’t like him because he stood up for her and taught her how to use her boundaries, but she was unprepared for how it affected her relationships …

Ten Ways to Talk About the Things That Matter

If this title seems unnerving, don’t worry, no one can do all ten at once. We don’t have to change the whole world—the idea is to spread some kindness in our own little corner of the world, but first let me tell a story about why I choose to fight for the equality of all …

Let’s NOT Make America Hate Again

If you’ve not yet awakened to the fact that the United States has changed in the last few months, it’s gonna be an even ruder awakening in time. It saddens me and many to see threats to the things we love about America from PBS and our National Park Lands, to censoring the media and …

Memoir Monday—Liar, Liar Pants on Fire?

My Grandma, Veronica (Mellish) Ellis was a writer. No one really knew this outside of the family because she was never published. She just filled out diary after diary, year after year. Who knows how long she had been keeping a faithful diary, but I know she told me once that she wrote something in …

Flying Monkey Friday–Sharing Our Family Stories

It's Flying Monkey Friday! The day we remind ourselves that we do not have to be manipulated by Flying Monkeys as we head into the weekend. Today's topic is family stories. How many of us have been told NOT to share our stories? How many secrets lurk in the family closet--causing shame and pain in the …

Wake Up Wednesday–Embrace Your Freedom

Sadie had been in relationship after relationship in which she felt stifled. She just wanted to be loved for herself and stop swimming laps to please the people she was dating. She decided to make a list of the things she felt were important to her. It was a good list and it included certain …