Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with the Enneagram

When Mayla began to wake up to the narcissism in her family of origin,  she was excited to share with her siblings, but it backfired and they made her the scapegoat because no one else was awake. They weren’t ready to see it, so the more she shared, the more defensive they became in their protection... Continue Reading →

Five Ways the Narcissist Might Confuse You About Love

Emy grew up with a narcissistic parent,  and feels there is a love deficit in her heart. No matter how many people love her, she still feels unloved. Her best friend Mary keeps saying she should practice self-love so she can open her spirit up to the love that’s already around her. In theory, Emy knows... Continue Reading →

How Male Headship Feeds Narcissism

Jim believes God ordained him as the male leader to control his family. He's married to a woman who had children before they were together and it's been a struggle for him to allow them to be themselves. He feels it's his religious duty to police them. His efforts include locking the kitchen after bedtime in case the... Continue Reading →

Me too, Church too and Time’s Up

Yesterday, I listened to a survivor tell her story. She was molested in her childhood. Her pain was palpable. I wanted to beat up the man who originally abused her and all the well-meaning Christians who further abused her by invalidating her story. Then I read a blog by a Christian woman who added her... Continue Reading →

Got Respect?

Tessa was an accomplished chef and wonderful hostess, but her sisters in law and mother in law did not appreciate her. They simply believed her husband should have married someone else. No matter how beautifully she set the table or how delicious the food, the conversation with her in-laws was always strained. No one complimented... Continue Reading →

Christmas and the Religious Narcissist

Religious Narcia rears its ugly sweater at Christmas because nothing excites a narcissist more than telling strangers how to live their lives. It’s the time of year when religious abuse runs on a high. There are all brands of crazy that go on when the days are darker and people are desperate to make it to the... Continue Reading →

Why Narcissistic Hoovering Sucks

Hayley left Joe six months ago. For the first time since she met him, she was finally free. Free of his criticism, free of his control, free of his cheating and free of his lies. She hadn’t met anyone new, but she was loving her freedom. She rarely thought of Joe and had zero interest... Continue Reading →

You Might Have Been Raised by a Narcissist

If you grew up with a parent who put their needs above yours, you might have been raised by a narcissist. If you were in charge of cleaning house for your parents, you might have been raised by a narcissist. If you've been lying to bill collectors since you were five, you might have been raised... Continue Reading →

More Than a Cup of Kindness

All I know is that the rocking started before I even had a self and I lived through the feeling of it. I rocked until I left home. And I’m not talking about being a cool eighties, punk rocker, but more like an autistic child who rocks back and forth to shut the world out.... Continue Reading →

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