Contact

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You can write to me at cherilynclough@live.com

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7 Responses to “Contact”

  1. Juliet Krawczak October 26, 2014 at 4:58 pm #

    Thanks for sharing this website. You’re a God send.

  2. Elizabeth. Parenzan January 6, 2015 at 7:41 pm #

    What an encouragement to me!

  3. Cherilyn Clough January 7, 2015 at 6:35 am #

    I am glad you are encouraged Elizabeth! Peace to you!

  4. jjmph91 August 27, 2015 at 12:20 pm #

    I like your site and got one of your bags given to me over the weekend. I am doing all that I can and have been in and out of therapy for years as more comes to the surface. My abuse I was told was amoung some of the most severe and similar to “A Child Called It” by Dave Pulsifer and “The Butterfly Garden” by Chip St Clair.

    Domestic violence past or present needs to have people support them to over come it. However, my story is bizarre as I was tied up and locked in closets, had guns in my face playing Russian Roulette, hug out with couple of Biker Groups as my mom tried to help some of the younger teens… (We were so much younger) and both my parents have abadoned us at different times for various lengths of time… 2 weeks to 7 weeks… Sometimes without the other parent even around… I was the oldest.

    As I have just gotten my voice, people ask lots of questions… but then want to blame me when they ask things, they are not ready for the response for and think God should just zap me and make me well. Doesn’t work like that. Then they say (usually cause they have been asking questions-I talk too much, when in reality I was just giving the answer… and then the explaination that enevitably goes with it cause they don’t understand adults that would do this to kids.

    But it hurts my feelings to be accused of talking too much, but any time they find out and start asking… this happens.

    I think other have this happen too, the more bizzare your abuse. Do you have any suggestions so that I can share, but not have them get mad cause they get ingrossed and preoccupied with the story and then too much time has lapsed for them?

  5. Cherilyn Clough August 28, 2015 at 10:12 am #

    Thank you friend for sharing part of your story with us! I am sorry you had to go through such terrible abuse and I think it is easy to blow off someone else’s story not having lived it, but for those who go through such childhoods it was and still is a very difficult experience. I think it was Maya Angelou who said when we share our stories we heal ourselves and others. Sharing our stories is important to growth and understanding and ending the violence for all.

    The problem comes when an audience is not ready to hear our stories. I will admit there are times when I have spoken so long that I probably scared someone who just met me because they didn’t know what to do with all that information. This happened when I first woke up out of my denial and was coming to an understanding of what actually happened. When we suddenly see the past for what it is, we want to tell someone so we don’t have to feel alone.

    My current plan is to share only as much as people ask about. So when they say “Where did you go to high school” I don’t launch into the whole story, I simply say “My parents didn’t let me go to high school.” Of course then some people will say “Oh” and turn away as if my teen years were a train wreck they can’t bear to look at. Others might say, “What in the world? What do you mean you didn’t go to high school?” I tell these people a little more, but omit the deepest and darkest pain unless I really know this person as a friend who honestly wants to know what happened and is not just being polite. When we tell too much of our stories too soon, we scare some people. They don’t know what to do with the information.

    Another idea is to find a socially appropriate place to share our stories. One place is through a blog or book, but in person places include support and recovery groups. There are also small groups in many churches where it can be appropriate to share as long as we don’t take up all the time and not allow others to share their stories too. As we share our stories, I think it’s also important to listen to the stories of other people. Compassion and empathy are two way streets and we can hardly ask for someone’s ear without giving back.

    When someone accuses us of talking too much, it its a wound because many emotionally abusive parents demean their children with such words. We don’t have to be ashamed or have hurt feelings, it might show us who isn’t safe to share with or it could just be that we are so caught up in the story we forgot to think of other people. Don’t feel down on yourself about this–you are not alone. This is a process and we don’t get everything right the first time, but we can learn from the situation how to better explain and share our stories in the future.

    I’m glad someone gave you a bag with my art on it. I hope it’s a blessing to you!

    I wish you a freedom-filled day!

    Cherilyn

  6. Heidi February 2, 2017 at 1:29 pm #

    Reading this website is a wonderful contribution to healing. My story is complicated. The hidden narc I had met in a developing country I worked in and moved to my home country. We had as I thought a wonderful relationship and just before taking the step to get married he removed the mask and separated after a wonderful holiday. It took many months after being paralyzed to find out that he was a narc. N suddenly all made sense. It was all opportunism and lacking empathy but covered in a way that was very difficult to figure out. I have marked this website and from time to time read it when the thoughts come back.

  7. Cherilyn Clough February 2, 2017 at 1:52 pm #

    Hi Heidi,

    Thank you for sharing!
    It is the experience of many people that when they realize their abuser or jerk boyfriend was a narc, they find much peace in the long run. And i bet you are glad you know what he is like now before you married him.

    Now is your time to celebrate you and get to know yourself better adn recognize the narcs to prevent future pain. So glad you got away from him! And I’m glad this website has been helpful for you.

    Peace and freedom to you!

    Cherilyn

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