How to Plan a Narcissist Free Holiday

Beth wants the impossible. She wants a nice family dinner with sharks. No, I’m not talking about a shark diving expedition, I'm referring to the feeding frenzy of triangulation and gossip that surrounds every family gathering in her family of origin. Last year's dinner was ruined by the narcissist grilling her about her engagement to… Continue reading How to Plan a Narcissist Free Holiday


Re-Framing Our Pain

Mariah survived a violent childhood, but she's still dealing with the aftermath of abuse today. Sometimes people tell her to just get over it and move on with her life. These same people wouldn't think of telling her to get over a broken leg. We all carry our childhood wounds with us--either in denial or in awareness until we find our healing.… Continue reading Re-Framing Our Pain


Go Where You are Celebrated

Kylie’s mother is not the kind that celebrates her daughter’s accomplishments. When Kylie decided to go to graduate school, her mother told her she would get too educated and never find a husband. When Kylie found the love of her life, her mother warned her that he was not the kind of man she had… Continue reading Go Where You are Celebrated


‘Tis the Season to Cookie Bomb

Here's my cookie blog from last year. Enjoy! Hi ACoNs*, Are you having trouble finding the joy this season due to lack of love in your narcissistic family? Make some new traditions with people who respond in love. Try doing some random acts of kindness and cookie bombing. Call it karma, intrinsic law or the circle of… Continue reading ‘Tis the Season to Cookie Bomb

Community, Non-Violence

Peace Through the Storms

This world is full of storms--emotional storms, health storms, financial storms, political storms and violent storms. For most people on this earth, life is a constant struggle to survive. I've heard someone say faith is like a boat to help us ride out the storms, but when terrible things happen, sometimes it feels like our… Continue reading Peace Through the Storms


Life is Short–Spend it With Kind People

It’s the coziest time of the year–time to grab a pumpkin latte, get acquainted with your favorite sweater and head out on a road trip to enjoy the autumn colors with someone you love. It would be fun to chant over the river and through the woods to grandmother's house we go--unless grandmother is more like a wolf in… Continue reading Life is Short–Spend it With Kind People


Standing in the Gap

Some sweet, kind soul at church last week expressed how glad they were to see my face because they thought I might be too upset to come to church now that the Adventist Church has voted no to allowing divisions to decide on ordaining women. I couldn't help but chuckle because they must not know… Continue reading Standing in the Gap

Community, Religious Narcia

Good Girls Get Angry

While I was growing up, I was taught never to show my anger. My parents didn't allow children to throw tantrums, so I watched my younger siblings being beaten with a belt over and over until their wills were broken. I believe this happened to me too, because for most of my life, I have been unable to access my… Continue reading Good Girls Get Angry


Heaven’s Flash Mob

Someone posted my favorite flash mob video the other day. And that got me to thinking. What does it feel like to be welcomed? Do you have someone who welcomes you? Someone who is so thrilled to see you they don't care what you’ve done or where you’ve been? I hope so. Sometimes our family… Continue reading Heaven’s Flash Mob

Community, Relationship

Why I Support Women’s Ordination

The church I am a member of and grew up in is discussing women's ordination today and hopefully they will vote on it next year at the General Conference. Even if this doesn't happen, I am not planning on leaving the church, but I do feel it's important to discuss this and let our voices be… Continue reading Why I Support Women’s Ordination