Walking Away from Narcissism

May those that love us, love us. And those that don't love us, May God turn their hearts, If He can't turn their hearts, May he turn their ankles So we'll know them by their limping. -An Old Irish Curse Many of us started on this journey of understanding narcissism when we noticed something wrong …

Let’s NOT Make America Hate Again

If you’ve not yet awakened to the fact that the United States has changed in the last few months, it’s gonna be an even ruder awakening in time. It saddens me and many to see threats to the things we love about America from PBS and our National Park Lands, to censoring the media and …

Ain’t Gonna Study War No More

War. Without it most of us wouldn't be here because we are the descendants of the survivors. This never became clearer to me than when I researched my family tree on ancestry.com. Eight super great grandfathers who fought in the Revolutionary War and several more who fought in the Civil War. I am proud of …

Don’t Shut Up, Your Voice Matters

Well Friends, I have been dumbfounded. I haven’t been sure what to write about lately because there is just so much sad news, I can hardly bear to write about it. When you grow up with oppression and live in fear of a belt and are refused an education, your hope turns to the government and church—people …

Ezer Kenegdo Still Rising

The situation of women’s rights is coming to a head. It's time to stand up for women everywhere. As we say goodbye to a president who affirms and supports strong women, we are now going to be under a man who uses women. It appears the crowds for the Women's March will far out number the …

Love is Resistance

Most of us who have studied narcissism and dealt with it in our families see lots of red flags in our new president's character. So how can we as citizens of God's kingdom make a difference? We might not approve of the choices of the president, but we don’t have to contribute to fear, we …

MLK Advice for the ACoN Soul

Being a white girl, living in a white neighborhood and not knowing any people of color, Martin Luther King Jr. was never mentioned in my childhood home. His birthday was never celebrated as a holiday until I was twenty, but I actually never learned anything about him until I was in college and we had …

Daring Greatly–The Courage of the Roosevelts

Jeri grew up with a narcissist mother who put her down and told her she was stupid and ugly. She has now come to a place where her marriage has failed, her family seems to do nothing but criticize her and her health is of some concern. The other day, she explained how the prospect …

The Double Bind on the ACoN Soul

Alisa was the scapegoat while her sister was the golden child. She grew up feeling like she didn’t belong and often wondered if she was adopted. It was hard to grow up feeling like she was on the outside of her family’s inner circle. A few years ago her father asked her to come to …

F the Trauma Bond

While she was growing up, Macy's parents used her as their slave and beat her whenever she didn't do what they wanted. Her three brothers lived like kings compared to her. When Macy became an adult, her parents wanted her to be an accountant and even though she wanted to be a nurse, she took …