2. Nana and the Heritage Singers

In celebration of Mother's Day, I am sharing some excerpts from my upcoming memoir--sort of a memoir within a memoir about my paternal grandmother. You can read part one here: 1. Nana's Hands If you’d told me we were going to move to an Island where daddy would chop down the alder and fir trees, scrape …

Mothers of the Lie

Many people of narcissistic mothers meet and share a similar anxiety and shame, yet when they compare notes,  they are surprised to discover  their mothers are so different. This is because they don’t realize there is more than one type of narcissistic mother.  In his book, “The People of the Lie,” M. Scott Peck talks about …

Five Myths About Motherhood

If you had a loving mom, it’s a beautiful thing to acknowledge her for whatever she’s done for you, but it's also important to understand not everyone has such a mother. Here are five myths about motherhood that might make Mother's Day easier to get through if you are struggling with a broken relationship with your mom. …

Re-Framing Our Pain

Mariah survived a violent childhood, but she's still dealing with the aftermath of abuse today. Sometimes people tell her to just get over it and move on with her life. These same people wouldn't think of telling her to get over a broken leg. We all carry our childhood wounds with us--either in denial or in awareness until we find our healing. …

Peace Through the Storms 2

In my last post, it seems some people got the impression that I support partisan politics which is NOT true. I am sorry for giving this impression because I have no political affiliations and as a Christian, I firmly believe Jesus when he said his followers did not fight in the political arena of his …

Inside Out Movie Review for ACONs

*SPOILER ALERT* Have you ever wondered what’s going inside your head? Pixar has given us a new tool for this. “Inside Out,” their newest release, is a drama on the inside of a girl's head named Riley. The main characters are a panel of creatures who stand in for Riley's emotions. Anyone who’s been to counseling might …

Understanding Narcissism 3—The Mistake of Downplaying the Mistakes

The third part of my friend’s comment that caused me to think we need better communication about narcissism are these comments downplaying mistakes—which often turns into downplaying the pain of the survivor to protect the abuser. "The one area that you may have a harder time understanding when it comes to motherhood, Cheri, is that …

Understanding Narcissism 2—Understanding the Gratefully Grateful

The second part of my friend’s comment that caused me to think we need better communication about narcissism is this comment which we often hear at church or family holiday dinners where people want everyone to act happy and look good: "It has worked well for me to focus on the good!" Yes, focusing on the …

Understanding Narcissism 1—Empathizing With the Need for Empathy

For those who are enjoying Mother's Day, I wish you a wonderful day! The blogs I am posting today are for my ACON* Friends who need comfort or help explaining their pain and hopefully it will help some who are apathetic to the damage of narcissism. This is a part of a series I am posting in response to a friend's …