5 Reasons You Should Watch the Shack

Isn't The Shack just a made up story? Yes. Is it even based on biblical facts? Yes, in some ways, but I like to think of it as an allegory. Pilgrim's Progress wasn't a true story either. But wait, God is a man and not a woman, right? Well, who of us has seen God? These …

MLK Advice for the ACoN Soul

Being a white girl, living in a white neighborhood and not knowing any people of color, Martin Luther King Jr. was never mentioned in my childhood home. His birthday was never celebrated as a holiday until I was twenty, but I actually never learned anything about him until I was in college and we had …

Ezer Rising

In the beginning God created Man, but he was not all that--because even though God created Man with perfection, something was missing--Man wasn't whole. We know this because God looked at him and said, "It's not good for Man to be alone." So God put Man to sleep and took a rib out of him to form …

How to Survive Spiritual Abuse

In my early twenties, I was part of a Christian music ministry and for nine months we sang at a different church every night. We were told to respect the authority of our leaders because they were set in place by God. One day at training camp, I was slapped in the face for leaving a three hour meeting …

The Hidden Elephant of Narcissism

There's a phrase, the elephant in the living room, which purports to describe what it's like to live with a drug addict, an alcoholic, an abuser. People outside such relationships will sometimes ask, "How could you let such a business go on for so many years? Didn't you see the elephant in the living room?" …

Healing from Hidden Abuse Book Review

It's not the load that breaks us down--heaven knows if we could see it all at once we might just shift our hips and find a better way to carry it--no, it's the shrapnel of life that keeps turning up in our relationships or the gloom we feel when we’re alone due to the painful …

Restoration from Narcissistic Abuse

When I was eleven, I had a tabby cat I loved dearly. When we moved, I had to start school late and to make it worse I had to take the fifth grade for a second time due to all of our moving. I was worried I'd never have any friends. But one thing cheered me, …

How Do We Love?

How do we love? Do we love with picket signs and judgment? Or with silence and shunning for the people who look, speak, think, live and believe differently than us? How do we love? Do we protect ourselves with weapons made of metal or use hate-filled words of steel to threaten those who see things …

Re-Framing Our Pain

Mariah survived a violent childhood, but she's still dealing with the aftermath of abuse today. Sometimes people tell her to just get over it and move on with her life. These same people wouldn't think of telling her to get over a broken leg. We all carry our childhood wounds with us--either in denial or in awareness until we find our healing. …

You Decide How the Story Ends

Once upon a time a girl grew up with narcissistic parents who didn’t meet her needs because they were too busy trying to fill their own. She survived hard times, but she had no clue what she was missing or how other people lived. Through the struggles of a messy childhood and lonely adulthood, she journeyed until …