Sanctuary

Sanctuary. We hear this word in the news a lot lately. I find it interesting because I grew up in a church that talks a lot about Bible prophecies and last day events and the cleansing of the sanctuary has been listed as a doctrine.  Some people's theology is all about escaping this earth and proving …

5 Reasons You Should Watch the Shack

Isn't The Shack just a made up story? Yes. Is it even based on biblical facts? Yes, in some ways, but I like to think of it as an allegory. Pilgrim's Progress wasn't a true story either. But wait, God is a man and not a woman, right? Well, who of us has seen God? These …

Love is Resistance

Most of us who have studied narcissism and dealt with it in our families see lots of red flags in our new president's character. So how can we as citizens of God's kingdom make a difference? We might not approve of the choices of the president, but we don’t have to contribute to fear, we …

How Do We Love?

How do we love? Do we love with picket signs and judgment? Or with silence and shunning for the people who look, speak, think, live and believe differently than us? How do we love? Do we protect ourselves with weapons made of metal or use hate-filled words of steel to threaten those who see things …

Five Myths About Motherhood

If you had a loving mom, it’s a beautiful thing to acknowledge her for whatever she’s done for you, but it's also important to understand not everyone has such a mother. Here are five myths about motherhood that might make Mother's Day easier to get through if you are struggling with a broken relationship with your mom. …

True Love is a Person

Love is not some pretty flower-child sentiment With all the fickleness of a springtime storm, but an eternally abiding presence that keeps the earth warm even-- when we cannot see it. Love’s not some noble concept to store in a book on a shelf, but a fire which originates and emanates from the throne which …

Five Ways a Narc Might Steal Your Love

Esme hates Valentine’s Day. Growing up with a narcissistic parent, she feels there is a love void in her heart. No matter how many people love her, she feels unloved. Her best friend Mary keeps saying she should practice self-love so she can open her spirit up to the love that’s already around her. In …

‘Tis the Season to Cookie Bomb

Here's my cookie blog from last year. Enjoy! Hi ACoNs*, Are you having trouble finding the joy this season due to lack of love in your narcissistic family? Make some new traditions with people who respond in love. Try doing some random acts of kindness and cookie bombing. Call it karma, intrinsic law or the circle of …

Peace Through the Storms 2

In my last post, it seems some people got the impression that I support partisan politics which is NOT true. I am sorry for giving this impression because I have no political affiliations and as a Christian, I firmly believe Jesus when he said his followers did not fight in the political arena of his …

Peace Through the Storms

This world is full of storms--emotional storms, health storms, financial storms, political storms and violent storms. For most people on this earth, life is a constant struggle to survive. I've heard someone say faith is like a boat to help us ride out the storms, but when terrible things happen, sometimes it feels like our …