Five Ingredients for a Narcissist-Free Relationship

Jessie grew up with a narcissistic father, then she found a man who acted a lot like her dad because that is what felt comfortable to her despite the abusive patterns. By the time she discovered what narcissism is, she was with husband number two and sick to her stomach to discover she had married …

The Father Who Calls You Beloved

Father's Day cards often fail to demonstrate the dark side of fatherhood. No father ever opens up a card to read, “Thank you for leaving me when I was two.” No woman writes a love letter to her father for stealing her innocence. Card commercials portray fathers reading stories to their kids and serving ice …

Ain’t Gonna Study War No More

War. Without it most of us wouldn't be here because we are the descendants of the survivors. This never became clearer to me than when I researched my family tree on ancestry.com. Eight super great grandfathers who fought in the Revolutionary War and several more who fought in the Civil War. I am proud of …

3. Nana’s Garden

In celebration of Mother's Day, I am sharing some excerpts from my upcoming memoir--sort of a memoir within a memoir about my paternal grandmother. You can the first two parts here: 1. Nana's Hands 2. Nana and the Heritage Singers A whole year had passed since we'd left our home to camp on that dark night and it had been …

Sanctuary

Sanctuary. We hear this word in the news a lot lately. I find it interesting because I grew up in a church that talks a lot about Bible prophecies and last day events and the cleansing of the sanctuary has been listed as a doctrine.  Some people's theology is all about escaping this earth and proving …

5 Reasons You Should Watch the Shack

Isn't The Shack just a made up story? Yes. Is it even based on biblical facts? Yes, in some ways, but I like to think of it as an allegory. Pilgrim's Progress wasn't a true story either. But wait, God is a man and not a woman, right? Well, who of us has seen God? These …

Love is Resistance

Most of us who have studied narcissism and dealt with it in our families see lots of red flags in our new president's character. So how can we as citizens of God's kingdom make a difference? We might not approve of the choices of the president, but we don’t have to contribute to fear, we …

How Do We Love?

How do we love? Do we love with picket signs and judgment? Or with silence and shunning for the people who look, speak, think, live and believe differently than us? How do we love? Do we protect ourselves with weapons made of metal or use hate-filled words of steel to threaten those who see things …

Five Myths About Motherhood

If you had a loving mom, it’s a beautiful thing to acknowledge her for whatever she’s done for you, but it's also important to understand not everyone has such a mother. Here are five myths about motherhood that might make Mother's Day easier to get through if you are struggling with a broken relationship with your mom. …

True Love is a Person

Love is not some pretty flower-child sentiment With all the fickleness of a springtime storm, but an eternally abiding presence that keeps the earth warm even-- when we cannot see it. Love’s not some noble concept to store in a book on a shelf, but a fire which originates and emanates from the throne which …