Ten Ways to Talk About the Things That Matter

If this title seems unnerving, don’t worry, no one can do all ten at once. We don’t have to change the whole world—the idea is to spread some kindness in our own little corner of the world, but first let me tell a story about why I choose to fight for the equality of all …

Ain’t Gonna Study War No More

War. Without it most of us wouldn't be here because we are the descendants of the survivors. This never became clearer to me than when I researched my family tree on ancestry.com. Eight super great grandfathers who fought in the Revolutionary War and several more who fought in the Civil War. I am proud of …

Just Say No to Bullies

The other day I heard from a young mother who told me about a bullying problem at a Christian school. Her child kept coming home hurt from a bully’s rude comments and hitting. She encouraged her child to stand tall in dignity, look the bully in the eye and ask, "Why are you hitting me?" …

Don’t Shut Up, Your Voice Matters

Well Friends, I have been dumbfounded. I haven’t been sure what to write about lately because there is just so much sad news, I can hardly bear to write about it. When you grow up with oppression and live in fear of a belt and are refused an education, your hope turns to the government and church—people …

Why Spanking is Bad for YOU

This post was inspired by the way a neighbor treated his little girl this week.  Hey Struggling Parent, It doesn't matter what they did or didn’t do, this is about you. For whatever reason, your blood pressure is up, your blood is boiling and you want the release of making your child feel pain so they …

How Do We Love?

How do we love? Do we love with picket signs and judgment? Or with silence and shunning for the people who look, speak, think, live and believe differently than us? How do we love? Do we protect ourselves with weapons made of metal or use hate-filled words of steel to threaten those who see things …

To Spank or Not to Spank?

One of the biggest reasons I struggle with my parents is because they still feel they have the right to tell me what to do–what kind of music to listen to, how to vote, how to spend my money and how to worship God. For the first twenty years of my life, their will was …

Peace Through the Storms

This world is full of storms--emotional storms, health storms, financial storms, political storms and violent storms. For most people on this earth, life is a constant struggle to survive. I've heard someone say faith is like a boat to help us ride out the storms, but when terrible things happen, sometimes it feels like our …

Speak The Truth–Even When Your Voice Shakes

I can still feel the tightness in my throat. It felt like my heart was in my throat choking out my words. Trembling because I knew if I spoke my truth, the “Persuader” would come out and my legs would pay the price. It seemed too much to ask to go to school. To have friends. …

What Happens in Childhood, Never Stays in Childhood

Becoming brave is a lifelong process. When a child is beaten until they have bruises, it's hard to be brave. When you're a teenager and your parents ignore your social and emotional needs, it leaves bruises on your heart. Even as adults, we often suffer from the pain of our past because unless we have processed what …