Memoir, Story

Memoir Monday—Liar, Liar Pants on Fire?

My Grandma, Veronica (Mellish) Ellis was a writer. No one really knew this outside of the family because she was never published. She just filled out diary after diary, year after year. Who knows how long she had been keeping a faithful diary, but I know she told me once that she wrote something in… Continue reading Memoir Monday—Liar, Liar Pants on Fire?

Memoir, Story

Memoir Monday–Skip the Rant and Make it a Story

One of the biggest reasons we write memoir is to tell our stories, but these stories also teach us about ourselves and our family histories. A good memoir not only tells a story,  but describes the journey the author has been on which might include their own faults as well as the people who abused… Continue reading Memoir Monday–Skip the Rant and Make it a Story

Memoir, Story

Encounter at Grouse Gap

Today I decided that roasted marshmallows taste like manna. It's interesting how we sometimes get a chance to revisit our lives in full circle moments. Sometimes they’re good experiences and other times they can be triggering. Today I had a beautiful moment that could only be orchestrated by the benevolent heart of the Universe. I… Continue reading Encounter at Grouse Gap

Story

When Father’s Day is Complicated

My relationship with my father has been complicated. Many people who read these pages might assume he is the narcissist who set my soul on fire to write this blog, but it was actually a different narcissistic personality in the family who triggered me into remembering my childhood and facing the way I was treated… Continue reading When Father’s Day is Complicated

Story, Truth

The Hidden Elephant of Narcissism

There's a phrase, the elephant in the living room, which purports to describe what it's like to live with a drug addict, an alcoholic, an abuser. People outside such relationships will sometimes ask, "How could you let such a business go on for so many years? Didn't you see the elephant in the living room?"… Continue reading The Hidden Elephant of Narcissism

Restoration, Story

How to Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse

It's been three years since a friend invited me to join a private group on Facebook. I didn't believe the group was for me so I ignored the first request. After a second offer, I joined to be polite. Within an hour I found the answer to a puzzle that had been plaguing me for… Continue reading How to Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse

Restoration, Self-Love, Story

Why You Need to Talk with Your Younger Self

Have you ever met a stranger who reminds you of your Grandma? Or reminds you of a mean aunt who verbally abused you? When we react to other people and various stimuli, we are often reacting to our past experiences. These clues might seem like nothing at first, but consider how the triggers of the past influence the… Continue reading Why You Need to Talk with Your Younger Self

Restoration, Story

Restoration from Narcissistic Abuse

When I was eleven, I had a tabby cat I loved dearly. When we moved, I had to start school late and to make it worse I had to take the fifth grade for a second time due to all of our moving. I was worried I'd never have any friends. But one thing cheered me,… Continue reading Restoration from Narcissistic Abuse

Story, Truth, Wholehearted

We Are Shaped by Our Stories

You've probably heard the saying, "We're only as sick as our secrets." One of my secrets is that my family was often homeless. It happened for a short time when I was eight years old. Then we lived in a cabin with limited utilities for most of seven years. During that time, we took our… Continue reading We Are Shaped by Our Stories

Relationship, Story

Independence Day Again

Do you have an independence day? No, I'm not talking about a national holiday, but the day you were set free because you realized a relationship with someone you loved was not going to work any more? It seems we have many independence days along this journey from narcissism. Sometimes we have to get up and declare our independence just to get out of bed… Continue reading Independence Day Again