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How to Avoid the Narcissist’s Triangulation Game

Lindsey was tired of her three sisters knocking on her door to tell her what her mother was saying about her new husband. She knew her narc mom didn’t like him because he strengthened her own boundaries, but she was unprepared for how it affected her relationships with her sisters. One day she woke up… Continue reading How to Avoid the Narcissist’s Triangulation Game

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Flying Monkeys or Walking on Hot Lava–Which do You Prefer?

Last night a Flying Monkey hit my wall. I think it's safe to say the only thing worse than a troll is a Flying Monkey. Trolls are usually strangers, while Flying Monkeys are often relatives. I don't think there is a bigger liar and hypocrite than the person who claims to love you in the… Continue reading Flying Monkeys or Walking on Hot Lava–Which do You Prefer?

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Three Ways to Disable Flying Monkeys

Who doesn’t like a monkey–unless it’s a flying monkey. I don’t know about you, but I love to go to the zoo and I could watch the monkeys for hours. Monkeys see and monkeys do. They love to imitate and respond to facial expressions. A few years ago, one of my nephews went to a… Continue reading Three Ways to Disable Flying Monkeys

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Healing from Hidden Abuse Book Review

It's not the load that breaks us down--heaven knows if we could see it all at once we might just shift our hips and find a better way to carry it--no, it's the shrapnel of life that keeps turning up in our relationships or the gloom we feel when we’re alone due to the painful… Continue reading Healing from Hidden Abuse Book Review

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Congratulations, It’s a Narc

Think of that moment in a movie or real life when a laboring mother is panting and pushing, while the father is offering her words of encouragement, then finally the moment comes when they hear a cry and the doctor announces those magical words, “Congratulations, it's a boy!" Or "Congratulations, it's a girl!" Everyone cries happy… Continue reading Congratulations, It’s a Narc

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The Double Bind of Narcissism

Alisa was the scapegoat. She grew up feeling like she didn’t belong and often wondered if she was adopted. It was hard to grow up feeling like she was on the outside of her family’s inner circle.   A few years ago her father asked her to come to work for him. Alisa was shocked… Continue reading The Double Bind of Narcissism

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The Narcissist’s Mirror

When many people hear the word narcissism, they think of the legend of Narcissus who was so vain he worshiped his image in a pond until he fell in and drowned. I once saw a cartoon of a father staring at his own reflection in a lake while his daughter kept calling out, "Daddy?!" The… Continue reading The Narcissist’s Mirror

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‘Twas the Night Before Freedom

'Twas the night before Freedom, when all through the house, siblings were arriving each bringing their spouse. Memos had been sent to the family with care in hopes Flying Monkeys would become more aware. The Golden child was gleeful, while others felt dread 'cause visions of inheritance spun in her head. The Scapegoat with coffee, sat… Continue reading ‘Twas the Night Before Freedom

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If You Give a Narc an Apology

If you give a Narc an apology, he'll want some groveling to go with it.  He’ll say you owe him and ask you to pick up the pieces for all the messes he’s made. When you refuse to pick up his messes, he will accuse you of things you've never done. You’ll try to set the record straight,… Continue reading If You Give a Narc an Apology

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How to Know If You Are Dealing With a Narcissist

Angela's husband gets upset at the thought of dinner with her family every year. She can’t remember a holiday when their marriage didn’t feel strained. Part of the problem is that Angela feels pressured to cook everything with her mother’s recipes--even though that's not how she cooks for her family. The situation is always made… Continue reading How to Know If You Are Dealing With a Narcissist