Since Hazel was a little girl,
she’d been taught Jesus wanted her
to hand over everything she had to others
and if she didn’t do this, she was called selfish.
She felt ashamed to be selfish,
so she gave everything she had to others until
she was broke in heart, broken in spirit
and broke at the bank.
What she didn’t realise is that the narcissist targeted her because she was empathetic. Decades later, she began to wonder why she was the only one in the family who ever gave anything to anyone else. Had Jesus singled her out or did Jesus even have anything to do with it? When she decided to reassess the voice of Jesus she began to realize Jesus had never asked her to give everything to the narcissist. She had been used.
Narcissistic feed is the currency of the narcissist. Every narc is different. For some, it is protecting the family’s reputation. For others it is money or material supply. Others feed off of ego strokes. No two people are the same, but a common trait of many narcissists is using others without giving back.
The ego driven narcissist wants to be fed with praise and compliments. The religious narcissist wants you to agree with them and they like to show you what to think. The opportunist narcissist sees every material thing you have and wants it for himself.
Narcissistic feed is the relationship between a person with toxic narcissistic tendencies and the person they wish to use. They might act friendly when they think you have money, but have nothing to say when you do not feed them. The narcissist sees your resources as theirs.
We’ve all been given resources. We all have a responsibility for what we do with our time, money and energy. The narcissist doesn’t see your resources as God’s, they see your resources as potential supply for themselves. This is because they have never grown up. They want to be fed like a baby without working for it. Their dream is to sit back and rely on you for money, work, compliments or manipulation of other people. They see you as a drone and a pawn. When you realize this, the truth will set you free.
The bottom line about giving feed to the narcissist is they will never be satisfied,they will always want more of whatever type of feed they crave.
Christians with narcissistic tendencies will try to shame us into giving up our resources. They say things like “Jesus gave all and so should we.” This “we” is like a royal we because the narcissist sees you as an extension of their self. What they are forgetting is Jesus taught personal responsibility through his parables. And the Bible says that God loves a cheerful giver. Don;t let other people manipulate you into giving up the things you need to so they can spend it. Each of us is responsible for our own resources and no one has the right to tell you how to spend your money.