Emy hates Valentine’s Day. Growing up with a narcissistic parent, she feels there is a love deficit in her heart. No matter how many people love her, she still feels unloved. Emy's best friend Mary keeps saying she should practice self-love so she can open her spirit up to the love that’s already around her.… Continue reading Five Ways the Narcissist Might Confuse You About Love
What would you do if I invited you to a funeral without a casket? You’d probably assume the dead had been cremated, right? But what if I told you they were still alive? You might call the cops because you’re afraid I’m going to “off” somebody Godfather style. Of course, if you thought either of… Continue reading Mourning the Living Dead
Jim believes God ordained him as the male leader to control his family. He's married to a woman who had children before they were together and it's been a struggle for him to allow them to be themselves. He feels it's his religious duty to police them. His efforts include locking the kitchen after bedtime in case the… Continue reading Male Headship 1—How it Feeds Narcissism
Yesterday, I listened to a survivor tell her story. She was molested in her childhood. Her pain was palpable. I wanted to beat up the man who originally abused her and all the well-meaning Christians who further abused her by invalidating her story. Then I read a blog by a Christian woman who added her… Continue reading Me too, Church too and Time’s Up
You know how some people don’t name the baby for a few days because they want to discover the personality? That’s how I’ve felt about my word for 2018. Here we are ten days into the New Year and I’m just now choosing my word. Many of my favorite writers and artists have chosen excellent words for… Continue reading A Time to Reclaim
It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. That about sums up 2017. Of course there can still be more worse times and we all hope for better times in 2018, so even though the year is ending, the book is never closed on how bad or how good things can… Continue reading The Worst of Times or the Best of Times?
Want a new you, for the New Year? How about getting to know the real you? Chances are the narcissist has robbed you of your authenticity. If you feel like you want a makeover, think about what sort of things you liked to do before you were put down or discouraged by the narc. Maybe… Continue reading New Year, New You? Get to Know the Real You
It's time to clean out the closets and give away or return everything you don't need. If you’ve been dealing with a narcissist, chances are you got some gifts you’d like to return. So where’s the line for the narc gift returns? Where in the world do we give all this crap back? I’m not… Continue reading From Feeling Like a Victim to Finding Your Power
Tessa was an accomplished chef and wonderful hostess, but her sisters in law and mother in law did not appreciate her. They simply believed her husband should have married someone else. No matter how beautifully she set the table or how delicious the food, the conversation with her in-laws was always strained. No one complimented… Continue reading Got Respect?
Alisa was the scapegoat. She grew up feeling like she didn’t belong and often wondered if she was adopted. It was hard to grow up feeling like she was on the outside of her family’s inner circle. A few years ago her father asked her to come to work for him. Alisa was shocked he… Continue reading The Double Bind of Narcissism