Ezer Kenegdo Still Rising

The situation of women’s rights is coming to a head. It's time to stand up for women everywhere. As we say goodbye to a president who affirms and supports strong women, we are now going to be under a man who uses women. It appears the crowds for the Women's March will far out number the …

Love is Resistance

Most of us who have studied narcissism and dealt with it in our families see lots of red flags in our new president's character. So how can we as citizens of God's kingdom make a difference? We might not approve of the choices of the president, but we don’t have to contribute to fear, we …

MLK Advice for the ACoN Soul

Being a white girl, living in a white neighborhood and not knowing any people of color, Martin Luther King Jr. was never mentioned in my childhood home. His birthday was never celebrated as a holiday until I was twenty, but I actually never learned anything about him until I was in college and we had …

Prayer for 2017

I'm starting this year worried Lord. Worried for the health and healing of some of my favorite people. Worried for the church I grew up in. Wondering if some leaders will ever do unto to others as they would like to be treated and treat women with equality. Worried about my country Where people actually …

Celebrate Only in Freedom

This is the time of year we hear lots of quotes and comments about being grateful. Sometimes we even read or hear admonitions to be grateful for what we have and for those of us who have fractured families, it can feel like a slap in the face. Such messages usually come from superficial friends …

Ezer Rising

In the beginning God created Man, but he was not all that--because even though God created Man with perfection, something was missing--Man wasn't whole. We know this because God looked at him and said, "It's not good for Man to be alone." So God put Man to sleep and took a rib out of him to form …

How to Survive Spiritual Abuse

In my early twenties, I was part of a Christian music ministry and for nine months we sang at a different church every night. We were told to respect the authority of our leaders because they were set in place by God. One day at training camp, I was slapped in the face for leaving a three hour meeting …

Women Pastors and Corporate Abuse in the Church

I've been in mourning these last few weeks. Not over a person--but over a church. Specifically the church I grew up in. The church that has been a spiritual home at least in name to six generations of my family. Yet even though I say six generations of family, my childhood home was far different …

The Spirit of the Lord is Freedom

This blog is about freedom from narcissism and religious abuse. Today I am going to write about the deep sadness in my heart over the church I grew up in and the growing threat to religious liberty. Ted Wilson, the world president of the Seventh day Adventist church is on a witch hunt. Of course …

The Hidden Elephant of Narcissism

There's a phrase, the elephant in the living room, which purports to describe what it's like to live with a drug addict, an alcoholic, an abuser. People outside such relationships will sometimes ask, "How could you let such a business go on for so many years? Didn't you see the elephant in the living room?" …