There are wolves in the woods. We've known it since we were children. Every time we knelt down to pick the daisies or smell the roses we felt uneasy. We sensed we were far from home. On such days something within us begged to find our way back to the safety of the garden wall.… Continue reading Surviving the Wolves
Little Red was stressed. After everything Wolf had done to her and her grandmother, he'd only gotten a few months in the slammer. Now he was out of prison and the chances of running into him were greater than they had been for months. Red had forgiven him, but she was unsure what to do… Continue reading Is It Un-Christian to Go No Contact?
Here’s a little poem I wrote. Try to imagine Julie Andrews singing it. My Least Favorite Things People who punish as much as they're able, Gossip and whining and pride on the table, Gifts and affection all tied up with strings, These are a few my least favorite things. Family secrets and abject denial, Threatening… Continue reading My Least Favorite Things
If anyone tries to tell you Thanksgiving is all about the food, don't believe them. Giving thanks takes us beyond ourselves and turns our thoughts toward our Life-giver. Focusing on the menu makes the holiday about gratification and gratification is the polar opposite of gratitude. I'm not saying we shouldn't cook up some great gastronomical… Continue reading Worst Thanksgiving Ever
Many people have heard of Brené Brown because of her TED talk on vulnerability. After her TED talk she was devastated by the criticism people posted about her on online forums. None of it was true of course, but the words still hurt. One day, she sent her kids to school and binged on peanut butter and… Continue reading What a Child Lives With Will Follow Them
Children Learn What They Live If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive. If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.… Continue reading Children Learn What They Live by Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
A few months ago I would not have read this book. I wouldn't think it applied to me or my mom, but now I see how it could apply to the relationship of many mothers and daughters. The main factor being any daughter who feels she is not good enough and any mother who lacks… Continue reading Book Review–Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
Among the voices telling me to forget about the past, my own was the loudest. My husband and I once bought a Dr. Phil book which required making a timeline of our lives. We went out for coffee to fill it out, and found ourselves swallowed up by a dark cloud. We discovered both of… Continue reading The Quilt of Integrity
Nice people respect other people's stories, but lately I've read several blogs where women writing about their life experiences have been trashed by their families. Recently someone brought to my attention an acquaintance who was bashing people for telling their childhood stories. It is her judgmental opinion that those who write memoir or anything about the… Continue reading Ignore the Critical