Worst Thanksgiving Ever

If anyone tries to tell you Thanksgiving is all about the food, don't believe them. Giving thanks takes us beyond ourselves and turns our thoughts toward our Life-giver. Focusing on the menu makes the holiday about gratification and gratification is the polar opposite of gratitude. I'm not saying we shouldn't cook up some great gastronomical …

What a Child Lives With Will Follow Them

Many people have heard of Brené Brown because of her TED talk on vulnerability. After her TED talk she was devastated by the criticism people posted about her on online forums. None of it was true of course, but the words still hurt. One day, she sent her kids to school and binged on peanut butter and …

Children Learn What They Live by Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

Children Learn What They Live If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive. If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy. …

Book Review–Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

A few months ago I would not have read this book. I wouldn't think it applied to me or my mom, but now I see how it could apply to the relationship of many mothers and daughters. The main factor being any daughter who feels she is not good enough and any mother who lacks …

The Quilt of Integrity

Among the voices telling me to forget about the past, my own was the loudest. My husband and I once bought a Dr. Phil book which required making a timeline of our lives. We went out for coffee to fill it out, and found ourselves swallowed up by a dark cloud. We discovered both of …

Ignore the Critical

Nice people respect other people's stories, but lately I've read several blogs where women writing about their life experiences have been trashed by their families. Recently someone brought to my attention an acquaintance who was bashing people for telling their childhood stories. It is her judgmental opinion that those who write memoir or anything about the …

Parental Bullying for Religious Reasons?

I rarely post anything of a political nature, but this falls into the dysfunctional family and emotional abuse category. Glenn Beck recently told his viewers to shove their children against a wall to reinforce their religious beliefs. “Well, they’re going to cry,” Beck says. “I’ll hurt their feelings. PUSH ‘EM! Because if you don’t do …

A Part of Your World

When most people are eighteen, they have a driver's license, a high school diploma, some friends and possibly a job or plans for college. They usually live in community with other people whether it is with classmates, church members or relatives. When I was eighteen, I had none of these things. For whatever reason my …

Things I Found in Common With a Polygamist’s Daughter

While I was reading, "The Witness Wore Red," I was surprised by how much I could relate to Rebecca's life in the Fundamental LDS Church. I’ve never met anyone from the FLDS church. No one in my family would consider polygamy. I have never been sexually molested-- if any man had tried, my father and …