Things I Found in Common With a Polygamist’s Daughter

While I was reading, "The Witness Wore Red," I was surprised by how much I could relate to Rebecca's life in the Fundamental LDS Church. I’ve never met anyone from the FLDS church. No one in my family would consider polygamy. I have never been sexually molested-- if any man had tried, my father and …

The Witness Wore Red–Book Review

They look like a warm and loving family celebrating a meal together. Guests arrive in formal attire to the smell of a roast in the oven, a spotless house and a crowd of children dressed in their Sunday best. While the kids politely gather around the large table, their father introduces his family to his …

Little Red’s Resources

Many of us who were broken came from broken parents--the legacy of a dysfunctional family has been handed down to us from our first parents, but we don't have to stay broken. For many the healing begins with compassion and a better understanding of God. These various resources include poems about childhood, information about healing the mind and books to read to …

Julie Miller–Testimony, “I Thought God Wanted to Rape Me”

Julie Miller has fascinated me for years with her unique, little girl voice and beautiful song lyrics, but I had no idea of her pain. It was a treat to watch this video and hear in her own words the story of how she came to trust God after a horrific childhood. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sg2qbr_fiGM The video …

Mind Control (Traditions of Dysfunctional Families 10)

It wouldn't make sense to end a series on dysfunctional family traditions without mentioning mind control. Many parents play the Fear, Shame and Blame Game to manipulate their adult children. It's easy for them to push our buttons because they installed them. If you had controlling parents chances are they used mind control. It's hard to break away …

Components of Spiritual Abuse

I recently discovered the following components of Spiritual Abuse. I am unsure of who the author is, but they sound familiar. 1. Spiritual abuse is the violation of our trust placed in God by someone who betrays that trust by using God’s name to gain entrance into our secret soul, destroying our experience of the goodness …

Violence (Traditions of Dysfunctional Families 8)

Violence doesn't just happen. I've heard many people say, "Things just got out of control and we didn't realize it until someone got hurt." I don't believe them. Violence always starts with disrespect. Violence isn't always physical. We can each do violence to ourselves without speaking a word or hitting the wall. Other times it's angry …

Victim-hood (Traditions of Dysfunctional Families 9)

Have you ever known someone who could go to the circus, have an elephant step on their foot, clowns spit on them, pop spilled down their back and still get stuck with nothing but peanut shells? This is the caricature of a martyr. Many victims have become martyrs. Bad things happened to them and before …

Silence (Traditions of Dysfunctional Families 6)

Silence takes many forms in a dysfunctional family but shunning is a sort of final silence. Before shunning there was first the silence of the controller who chose not to reveal truth so they could manipulate an outcome. There was the silence of children who were afraid to tell the truth for fear of what will happen when …