Triangulation (Traditions of Dysfunctional Families 5)

When Natalie received her first check the first thing she did was buy a sofa. She'd never bought anything brand new before so in her excitement she told her family. The delivery truck was unloading it when her phone rang. It was her sister informing her that their parents were talking because they thought Natalie should wait …

Isolation (Traditions of Dysfunctional Families 4)

Most never speak about it, but isolation is a very common tradition of dysfunctional families. We all know the fairytale where the heroine is locked away in a tower with nothing but birds and mice to talk with, but often isolation is so subtle neighbors, teachers and church members might not recognize it as such.  Here are three ways children suffer from isolation …

Scapegoating (Traditions of Dysfunctional Families 3)

Some families are so dysfunctional that they can only be united when they have a common enemy. Scapegoating helps a sick family unite by choosing one person to blame for all the family problems. When we first left home, one of my siblings began to see things differently than my parents.  As they had children they began …

Anger (Dysfunctional Family Traditions 1)

Anger is NOT a sin, but many Christians grew up being warned about it. The Bible gives us examples of people whose anger was out of control. Like Jonah who got mad because God saved Nineveh and Balaam who got so angry he beat his donkey. But there are other examples in the Bible where good people got angry …

Dysfunctional Family Traditions

Being in a relationship with somebody who lies is tough. It’s not that you don’t love them or care about them, it’s just that you can’t connect. Without trust, there’s no relationship. -Donald Miller One of the most common searches on this site is the question, "How do I get to the root of my …

The Glass Castle – Book Review

Jeanette Walls is my hero. There is nothing that expresses our human desire to chase Eden more than people who are constantly on the move. At the heart of the Glass Castle we see an entire family chasing Eden. Jeannette Walls had a difficult story to tell--one that not many would seek out, but she …

Other Ways of Speaking

There are other ways of speaking. Two-year-olds throw tantrums, teenagers rebel, Husbands yell and wives ignore. Nations press sanctions, gangs kill, Those in power oppress while the pious shun. But God's ways are not our ways. ©Rolf Jansson/Licensed from GoodSalt.com God has tried many ways of speaking-- First through nature with the smell of jasmine, The sparkle of …

The Persuader

Silently threatening From the back of their bedroom door, They jokingly call it "The Persuader," But I am not laughing. It seems to have a life of its own. Sometimes it does a random dance on the table, Breakdancing against the fridge, Causing dust to rise from the sofa Where I am sitting. When the …