Skipping along the path of life, Red’s heart was full of joy as she reached out to pick the flowers of life and pass them it on to others. That fateful day she was carrying a basket with homemade bread and jam for grandma.
Little Red naively trusted grandmother (despite her wolf-like behavior) because Little Red assumed all parents and grandparents are safe. This is the experience of many who have been abused by narcissistic parents and leaders. Something in her gut felt wrong, but in her innocence she couldn’t figure it out what it was until long after it happened.
Little Red is the symbol of all who were abused in the home and church in the name of love. Nothing is more sinister than believing we are loved and safe only to be ravaged by wolves in the fold.
Little Red thought Grandma’s house was a safe place and so did we. It was shocking to find ourselves lied to and abused by the very people who were supposed to love and protect us. Nothing is more damaging to the psyche than abuse in the name of love.
There are many endings to the story of Little Red throughout history and across cultures. Some say she was rescued by the woodsman. Others say she and grandmother were both eaten by the wolf, but survived after his stomach was cut open. One of the oldest versions of this story says Little Red did not wait to get rescued, but rescued herself.
In this most ancient version, Little Red outsmarts Wolf by saying she has to go to the outhouse. Wolf allows her to go to the outhouse with a string tied around her finger, but once Red is out of Wolf’s sight, she wisely ties the string to the outhouse door and runs for her life.
Like Little Red, we had no control over what our abuser’s did to us, but now we can use our resources to rescue ourselves and get to a safer place. This is how we change the things we can.
Our abusers have lied. They will claim it never happened. They will accuse us of making things up–which is code for they don’t want anyone else to know what they did so they are trying to discredit us. No matter how much we love them, we can’t fix them. This is where we learn to accept the things we cannot change.
The art and stories at Little Red Survivor are designed for survivors of childhood narcissistic and religious abuse—each piece is intended to help you thrive.