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Enneagram

What I Did For Love—Confessions of an Enneagram Two

My very first dreams were about people— usually my parents and grandparents, but also the occasional stranger. When I was three years old, my mom had a friend named Gladys who came to visit us. She brought potato chips, and my dad tried to pay her for them. She refused the dollar, and he insisted,… Continue reading What I Did For Love—Confessions of an Enneagram Two

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Relationship, Self-Love

Five Ways the Narcissist Might Confuse You About Love

Emy hates Valentine’s Day. Growing up with a narcissistic parent,  she feels there is a love deficit in her heart. No matter how many people love her, she still feels unloved. Emy's best friend Mary keeps saying she should practice self-love so she can open her spirit up to the love that’s already around her.… Continue reading Five Ways the Narcissist Might Confuse You About Love

Relationship, Resilience

Mourning the Living Dead

What would you do if I invited you to a funeral without a casket? You’d probably assume the dead had been cremated, right? But what if I told you they were still alive?  You might call the cops because you’re afraid I’m going to “off” somebody Godfather style. Of course, if you thought either of… Continue reading Mourning the Living Dead

Relationship, Self-Love

New Year, New You? Get to Know the Real You

Want a new you, for the New Year? How about getting to know the real you? Chances are the narcissist has robbed you of your authenticity. If you feel like you want a makeover, think about what sort of things you liked to do before you were put down or discouraged by the narc.  Maybe… Continue reading New Year, New You? Get to Know the Real You

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Narcissism, Resistance

The Double Bind of Narcissism

Alisa was the scapegoat. She grew up feeling like she didn’t belong and often wondered if she was adopted. It was hard to grow up feeling like she was on the outside of her family’s inner circle. A few years ago her father asked her to come to work for him. Alisa was shocked he… Continue reading The Double Bind of Narcissism

Religious Narcia

Christmas and the Religious Narcissist

Religious Narcia rears its ugly sweater at Christmas because nothing excites a narcissist more than telling strangers how to live their lives. It's the time of year when religious abuse runs on a high. There are all brands of crazy that go on when the days are darker and people are desperate to make it to the end of… Continue reading Christmas and the Religious Narcissist

Narcissism, Relationship

What Narcissism Can Do

When Marla went No Contact from her abuser, her flying monkey sister kept saying, “But you never know how long Grandmother is going to live.” It’s true, when someone dies, we mourn them, but what most flying monkeys don’t realize is many survivors of narcissism mourn the loss of relationships every day. Which is worse,… Continue reading What Narcissism Can Do

Narcissism

You Might Have Been Raised by a Narcissist

If you grew up with a parent who put their needs above yours, you might have been raised by a narcissist. If you were in charge of cleaning house for your parents, you might have been raised by a narcissist. If you've been lying to bill collectors since you were five, you might have been raised… Continue reading You Might Have Been Raised by a Narcissist

Resilience

A Flying Monkey by Any Other Name

When one of my sisters informed me she’s not a “winged monkey,” I laughed and told her I could tell she was talking about me because the only other person who’s ever used that term is my other sister.  The term flying monkey comes from the movie The Wizard of Oz. The reason my sisters… Continue reading A Flying Monkey by Any Other Name

Hope, Resilience

Hope for the Holidays

If only we could live in a Hallmark Movie, maybe we’d find going home something to look forward to, but my experience in planning hallmark moments is it always turns out more like the “Home for the Holidays" movie. With some families all you can do is hunker down for a long winter’s nap and… Continue reading Hope for the Holidays