Enneagram, Enneagram Two, love, narcissism, narcissistic abuse, survivor, self-care, littleredsurvivor.com
Enneagram

What I Did For Love—Confessions of an Enneagram Two

My very first dreams were about people— usually my parents and grandparents, but also the occasional stranger. When I was three years old, my mom had a friend named Gladys who came to visit us. She brought potato chips, and my dad tried to pay her for them. She refused the dollar, and he insisted,… Continue reading What I Did For Love—Confessions of an Enneagram Two

sisters, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, narcissism. dysfunctional families, littleredsurvivor.com
Resilience, Self-Love, Story

Once Were Sisters

Jessie grew up in an enmeshed family. For as long as she could remember, her life revolved around her parents and sisters. Her mother was very protective of them. She rarely let them out of her sight unless they were at school. Jessie and her sisters saw the world as a huge and dangerous place… Continue reading Once Were Sisters

Love, narcissist, narcissism, fake love, abuse, valentine, littleredsurvivor.com
Relationship, Self-Love

Five Ways the Narcissist Might Confuse You About Love

Emy hates Valentine’s Day. Growing up with a narcissistic parent,  she feels there is a love deficit in her heart. No matter how many people love her, she still feels unloved. Emy's best friend Mary keeps saying she should practice self-love so she can open her spirit up to the love that’s already around her.… Continue reading Five Ways the Narcissist Might Confuse You About Love

Relationship, Resilience

Mourning the Living Dead

What would you do if I invited you to a funeral without a casket? You’d probably assume the dead had been cremated, right? But what if I told you they were still alive?  You might call the cops because you’re afraid I’m going to “off” somebody Godfather style. Of course, if you thought either of… Continue reading Mourning the Living Dead

Religious Narcia, Women's Rights

Me too, Church too and Time’s Up

Yesterday, I listened to a survivor tell her story. She was molested in her childhood. Her pain was palpable. I wanted to beat up the man who originally abused her and all the well-meaning Christians who further abused her by invalidating her story. Then I read a blog by a Christian woman who added her… Continue reading Me too, Church too and Time’s Up

Relationship, Self-Love

New Year, New You? Get to Know the Real You

Want a new you, for the New Year? How about getting to know the real you? Chances are the narcissist has robbed you of your authenticity. If you feel like you want a makeover, think about what sort of things you liked to do before you were put down or discouraged by the narc.  Maybe… Continue reading New Year, New You? Get to Know the Real You

Narcissism, Resilience

From Feeling Like a Victim to Finding Your Power

It's time to clean out the closets and give away or return everything you don't need. If you’ve been dealing with a narcissist, chances are you got some gifts you’d like to return. So where’s the line for the narc gift returns? Where in the world do we give all this crap back? I’m not… Continue reading From Feeling Like a Victim to Finding Your Power

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Relationship, respect

Got Respect?

Tessa was an accomplished chef and wonderful hostess, but her sisters in law and mother in law did not appreciate her. They simply believed her husband should have married someone else. No matter how beautifully she set the table or how delicious the food, the conversation with her in-laws was always strained. No one complimented… Continue reading Got Respect?

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Narcissism, Resistance

The Double Bind of Narcissism

Alisa was the scapegoat. She grew up feeling like she didn’t belong and often wondered if she was adopted. It was hard to grow up feeling like she was on the outside of her family’s inner circle. A few years ago her father asked her to come to work for him. Alisa was shocked he… Continue reading The Double Bind of Narcissism

Religious Narcia

Christmas and the Religious Narcissist

Religious Narcia rears its ugly sweater at Christmas because nothing excites a narcissist more than telling strangers how to live their lives. It's the time of year when religious abuse runs on a high. There are all brands of crazy that go on when the days are darker and people are desperate to make it to the end of… Continue reading Christmas and the Religious Narcissist