How to Plan a Narcissist Free Holiday

Beth wants the impossible. She wants a nice family dinner with sharks. No, I’m not talking about a shark diving expedition, I'm referring to the feeding frenzy of triangulation and gossip that surrounds every family gathering in her family of origin. Last year's dinner was ruined by the narcissist grilling her about her engagement to... Continue Reading →

Walking Away from Narcissism

May those that love us, love us. And those that don't love us, May God turn their hearts, If He can't turn their hearts, May he turn their ankles So we'll know them by their limping. -An Old Irish Curse Many of us started on this journey of understanding narcissism when we noticed something wrong... Continue Reading →

How to Avoid the Narcissist’s Triangulation Game

Lindsey was tired of her three sisters knocking on her door to tell her what her mother was saying about her new husband. She knew her narc mom didn’t like him because he strengthened her own boundaries, but she was unprepared for how it affected her relationships with her sisters. One day she woke up... Continue Reading →

How to Deal With Narcissistic Hate-Mail

If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a flying monkey or a narcissist, you’ve probably received some hate-mail, but just in case you haven’t, allow me to tell you what it's like so you can be prepared when it happens. It might start out with some of your least favorite things and a long list... Continue Reading →

Writing Memoir–Why I Can’t Keep Quiet

When I was eight and my family suddenly left the house we lived in to sleep in a tent at an abandoned sawmill, I had no idea what was going on. To this day, my parents have never told me what happened. What I do know is that we never went back to that house.... Continue Reading →

The Curse of Invisible Wounds

A while back my friend Joe asked, “Why there are so many pages and groups on social media about narcissism?” He gasp when he said it as though he’d just discovered a tunnel to the dark side in his own backyard. “There are literally thousands of people who claim to be victims of narcissism! How... Continue Reading →

Five Ways to Heal After Narcissistic Abuse

There’s a story about a mother who always cut the loaf off at both ends every time she made it for dinner. Her daughter kept up the tradition and eventually her granddaughter did it too. Then one day the granddaughter asked her grandmother why she cut off the ends of the loaf. The grandmother laughed when... Continue Reading →

Just Say No to Bullies

The other day I heard from a young mother who told me about a bullying problem at a Christian school. Her child kept coming home hurt from a bully’s rude comments and hitting. She encouraged her child to look the bully in the eye and ask, "Why are you hitting me?" The bully's answer was,... Continue Reading →

Don’t Let the Narcissist Define You

One of the worst things a narcissist tries to do is label you. She/he might try to define you to yourself, your friends and family members. This is part of the gaslighting treatment and you must diligently refute these lies. When I was a young adult, I began to feel uncomfortable when the narcissist told me how... Continue Reading →

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