I am not a stranger to the dark Hide away, they say 'Cause we don't want your broken parts I've learned to be ashamed of all my scars Run away, they say No one'll love you as you are But I won't let them break me down to dust I know that there's a place… Continue reading You are Glorious Scapegoat
When Mayla began to wake up to the narcissism in her family of origin, she was excited to share with her siblings, but it backfired and they made her the scapegoat because no one else was awake. They weren’t ready to see it, so the more she shared, the more defensive they became in their protection… Continue reading Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with the Enneagram
What would you do if I invited you to a funeral without a casket? You’d probably assume the dead had been cremated, right? But what if I told you they were still alive? You might call the cops because you’re afraid I’m going to “off” somebody Godfather style. Of course, if you thought either of… Continue reading Mourning the Living Dead
You know how some people don’t name the baby for a few days because they want to discover the personality? That’s how I’ve felt about my word for 2018. Here we are ten days into the New Year and I’m just now choosing my word. Many of my favorite writers and artists have chosen excellent words for… Continue reading A Time to Reclaim
Tessa was an accomplished chef and wonderful hostess, but her sisters in law and mother in law did not appreciate her. They simply believed her husband should have married someone else. No matter how beautifully she set the table or how delicious the food, the conversation with her in-laws was always strained. No one complimented… Continue reading Got Respect?
Alisa was the scapegoat. She grew up feeling like she didn’t belong and often wondered if she was adopted. It was hard to grow up feeling like she was on the outside of her family’s inner circle. A few years ago her father asked her to come to work for him. Alisa was shocked he… Continue reading The Double Bind of Narcissism
When Marla went No Contact from her abuser, her flying monkey sister kept saying, “But you never know how long Grandmother is going to live.” It’s true, when someone dies, we mourn them, but what most flying monkeys don’t realize is many survivors of narcissism mourn the loss of relationships every day. Which is worse,… Continue reading What Narcissism Can Do
It's been three years since a friend invited me to join a narcissistic abuse support group. I didn't believe the group was for me so I ignored the first request. After a second offer, I joined to be polite. Within an hour I found the answer to a puzzle that had been plaguing me for most… Continue reading How to Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse