Jessie grew up in an enmeshed family. For as long as she could remember, her life revolved around her parents and sisters. Her mother was very protective of them. She rarely let them out of her sight unless they were at school. Jessie and her sisters saw the world as a huge and dangerous place… Continue reading Once Were Sisters
Tessa was an accomplished chef and wonderful hostess, but her sisters in law and mother in law did not appreciate her. They simply believed her husband should have married someone else. No matter how beautifully she set the table or how delicious the food, the conversation with her in-laws was always strained. No one complimented… Continue reading Got Respect?
Alisa was the scapegoat. She grew up feeling like she didn’t belong and often wondered if she was adopted. It was hard to grow up feeling like she was on the outside of her family’s inner circle. A few years ago her father asked her to come to work for him. Alisa was shocked he… Continue reading The Double Bind of Narcissism
When Marla went No Contact from her abuser, her flying monkey sister kept saying, “But you never know how long Grandmother is going to live.” It’s true, when someone dies, we mourn them, but what most flying monkeys don’t realize is many survivors of narcissism mourn the loss of relationships every day. Which is worse,… Continue reading What Narcissism Can Do
When one of my sisters informed me she’s not a “winged monkey,” I laughed and told her I could tell she was talking about me because the only other person who’s ever used that term is my other sister. The term flying monkey comes from the movie The Wizard of Oz. The reason my sisters… Continue reading A Flying Monkey by Any Other Name