Don’t Shut Up, Your Voice Matters

Well Friends, I have been dumbfounded. I haven’t been sure what to write about lately because there is just so much sad news, I can hardly bear to write about it. When you grow up with oppression and live in fear of a belt and are refused an education, your hope turns to the government and church—people …

The Spirit of the Lord is Freedom

This blog is about freedom from narcissism and religious abuse. Today I am going to write about the deep sadness in my heart over the church I grew up in and the growing threat to religious liberty. Ted Wilson, the world president of the Seventh day Adventist church is on a witch hunt. Of course …

How to Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse

It's been three years since a friend invited me to join a private group on Facebook. I didn't believe the group was for me so I ignored the first request. After a second offer, I joined to be polite. Within an hour I found the answer to a puzzle that had been plaguing me for …

How to Stop Feeling Like a Victim

Once upon a time we were all victims. We were helpless children who could not feed ourselves or dress ourselves. We were not strong enough to fight the violence or emotional abuse. We had not control over what happened to us. We didn't ask to be born into a dysfunctional family. We were blown about …

Surviving a Narcissist

Every day thousands of people do things they never wanted to do because they are afraid of offending someone who is bullying them. I'm not talking about a grade school scenario where a bully steals someone's lunch money. I am talking about dysfunctional family dynamics that are toxic due to narcissism. We've all known people, who …

Scapegoating

When Lana's grandmother asked her to lie to her cousin about something she refused to have anything to do with the lie. Until this happened, she'd always managed to fly under the radar and get along with her grandma. She thought nothing more of it until she discovered her grandmother had blamed her for her …

A Game We Can Never Win

This week I am writing about narcissism. I barely knew what the term meant seven months ago. I have several friends who kept posting memes from ACON* support groups on FaceBook which kept resonating with me. Then I discovered The Empathy Trap Book and realized I am a highly empathetic person which basically set me up …

Scapegoating (Traditions of Dysfunctional Families 3)

Some families are so dysfunctional that they can only be united when they have a common enemy. Scapegoating helps a sick family unite by choosing one person to blame for all the family problems. When we first left home, one of my siblings began to see things differently than my parents.  As they had children they began …