Afraid of Jesus Coming?

When I was a kid, I hated sermons about Jesus coming. I grew up in a church where people loved to talk about Jesus coming, but it didn’t give me any peace. Even as an adult, I got a creepy feeling whenever the subject came up and it’s taken me years to figure out why.

I was scared of Jesus coming because–

1. Jesus Didn’t Always Seem Like a Friend
I wasn’t convinced Jesus could be trusted. I imagined Jesus was the nice guy who saves me from the Father, but then again He seems to be pretty tight with the Father. If the main focus of Jesus coming is to judge me, then He didn’t seemed like any friend of mine. I grew up with critical, judgmental parents and because they were the ones who threatened me with Jesus coming, I figured Jesus had the same attitude. Maybe that was because–

2. People Used His Coming to Manipulate Me 
Whenever I was unhappy with my living situation or our constantly moving lifestyle (we moved over 40 times in 20 years), they would say, “Look at the headlines. Jesus is coming soon and we have to get our lives in order. It could happen anytime. We need to get all sin out of our lives.” As a young teenager, I shuddered at the thought of Jesus coming back to condemn me forever. Maybe that was because–

3. The Coming of Jesus Was Linked With Judgment
I was taught that God’s judgment is arbitrary and punitive. I imagined Jesus was like the adults I knew who if I didn’t do what they wanted either belted me or ignored me. The concept of Jesus coming back with unconditional love couldn’t enter my mind because I didn’t know what unconditional love looked like. And the judgment seemed like an extension of their critical spirit. Maybe that was because–

4. I was Worried About Standing Without an Intercessor
This always terrified me. I knew I was a sinner and had no chance without Jesus. But this whole scene is based on the misunderstanding that Jesus and the Father are NOT one. In one scenario I needed Jesus to beg the Father to protect me, so how would I live without His protection? Maybe that is because–

5. Being Ready For Jesus to Come Usually Ruined Relationships
We often lived in isolation because we judged those who lived in “apostasy.” This separated us from community (you can’t play with those kids, you can’t go to school, we can’t go to that church anymore because that pastor is no good.) They said I didn’t need an education because Jesus was going to come before I grew up. Relatives were deemed too lukewarm so we barely knew most of our family. No high school, no friends, no community just isolation and threats to get rid of sin before the big event. We lived as though we were between heaven and earth with nowhere to belong.

When I complained about being scared, I was told it was because my heart wasn’t ready (which usually meant I wasn’t doing what others wanted me to do.) With fear, manipulation and judgment all riding on this one event, you can imagine why I cringed whenever we sang, “Lift up the Trumpet and loud let it ring, Jesus is coming again!”  It felt we were like announcing, “Here comes Jesus and He’s gonna make you pay.” Who wants to sing about that?

In the last few years I have discovered Jesus is trustworthy. I’ve also learned the theology of my youth was not always the best interpretation of the Bible. I’m not scared of Jesus anymore, but just in case anyone else has been terrorized by arbitrary theological views, here are five reasons why we don’t have to be afraid–

1. Jesus is Coming Back as Our Friend
Do you worry when your friends come to visit? Me neither. Jesus is an amazing person–not only is He God, but He has decided to call us friends (John 15:15). Friends don’t come over to judge and terrorize, they come to hang out. Jesus is coming so we can hang out with Him for all eternity (John 14:4).

2. Jesus is Nicer Than Most Christians Make Him Out to Be
If God wanted to use His power to force us to behave, He could have done that before Eden, during Eden or after Eden. God could have wiped out the entire human race, but He didn’t. He is patient and not wanting any to perish (2 Peter 3:9).

3. God’s Judgment is NOT Vindictive or Arbitrary
Jesus says the Father leaves all the judging to Him–

The Father judges no one,
but has entrusted all judgment to the Son.
-John 5:22

Jesus says He did not come to judge–

As for the person who hears my words
but does not keep them,
I do not judge him.
For I did not come to judge the world,
but to save it.
-John 12:47

So who determines the judgment? We do–by how we judge God’s trustworthiness and respond to His requests–

Respect God, and give glory to him,
because the hour of HIS judgment has come.
-Revelation 14:7

Do we judge God to be trustworthy? Do we choose to live like Jesus taught us? How we judge God determines how we relate to God’s law of other centered love–which is His design for a happier life. If we trust God and obey Him, Jesus will cure us and replace our hearts of stone with hearts of love for God and other people. The judgment is simply a diagnosis of our condition.

4.  Jesus Will NEVER Leave Us
When Jesus says that He and the Father are one, He’s not lying.  Together they are pleading with all of us to be reconciled back to their love. Love makes all the difference in the world. We don’t have to afraid to stand without an intercessor because God has promised to never leave us (Heb 13:5).

Jesus ever lives to intercede (Heb. 7:25). There will come a time when intercession is no longer necessary, not because Jesus would ever stop, but because the choices of everyone on earth will have been finalized.

Once we are sealed with the Holy Spirit (Eph. 1:13) we will finally be cured of this sin disease. Our cure will never come through conforming our external behavior because God’s healing goes much deeper than performance. Our character will be healed when we learn to love everyone with other-centered love. When we allow Jesus to transform our selfish hearts into loving ones, we will no longer have any desire to serve self. We will be safe for heaven when Jesus has turned our hearts of stone into hearts of love (Eze. 36:26).

5. Jesus is Coming to Fix Everything Broken–Especially Broken Relationships
Jesus is coming to reunite us with loved ones, make the earth like new and do away with everything harmful and toxic. He is excited to come and give us eternal life. Jesus says–

I am making everything new!
And then he said to me,
“Write this down, for what I tell you
is trustworthy and true.”
-Revelation 21:5

There is nothing we will miss when this earth is over because the new life Jesus has planned supersedes our imagination–

No eye has seen, no ear has heard,
no mind has conceived what
God has prepared for those who love him.”
-1 Corinthians 2:9

If being ready for Jesus to come is based on fear, then we’ll never be ready. Jesus doesn’t want us to be scared into a relationship with Him. This whole universal war between heaven and earth is based on God showing us that He is trustworthy.

If you are still feeling a little scared about Jesus coming, you can talk to Him like you would a friend and listen to what He has to say in the Bible. Jesus is not only a Friend worth having– but He is a Friend we never have to be scared of–not now and certainly not when He comes to take us home to hang out with Him forever.

When we realize Jesus is our Friend,
When we realize Jesus really cares about us personally,
When we realize God’s judgment is not vindictive or arbitrary,
When we realize Jesus will never leave us,
When we realize Jesus is coming back to fix everything that was broken–

We are no longer afraid, we can look forward to Jesus coming with joy.

And we can say with friends of Jesus everywhere–

Come soon, Friend Jesus!

29 Responses to “Afraid of Jesus Coming?”

  1. Christpher July 31, 2015 at 1:16 am #

    i’m 12 years old and I’m very scared I wake up looking out the window because I think Jesus will come I’m so scared may you please help me.

  2. Cherilyn Clough July 31, 2015 at 10:35 pm #

    Dear Chris,
    I just saw this and I am writing a blog just for you young friend! I am also praying that Jesus will help you know you can trust him and feel at peace and sleep good tonight! Here is the link:

    https://littleredsurvivor.com/2015/07/31/dear-chris-jesus-is-coming-to-love-you-not-hurt-you/

    Jesus loves you! 🙂 -Cherilyn

  3. Cody Howell August 9, 2015 at 4:35 pm #

    I have been struggling with not being scared of Jesus coming back and in ways I’m not, but at the same time I don’t want to leave this world, I know the bible says not to be conformed to this world but I can’t stop not wanting to leave this world, any advice? (I know this world stinks compared to New Jerusalem but i get paranoid thinking about it)

  4. Cherilyn Clough August 10, 2015 at 4:55 pm #

    Hi Cody,
    Many people–including myself have felt the same way. It’s only human nature to trust what we know and let’s face it, it’s hard to imagine things we’ve never seen. And the Bible does say there will be wonderful things we have never imagined, but we have some clues about how good it might be because everything natural and good on this earth originated with God.

    This earth made new will eventually be our home. So every amazing waterfall and delicious fruit or colorful bird will either be in the earth made new or a better version will be there. The same thing goes for our pets. The truth is there is nothing so good here that it won’t be better without sin and pain and death.

    The Bible says we will build houses and inhabit them and I imagine we will have gardens and God will still have winter sports and summer sports along with space travel and art and music and lots of other amazing things to do with our time. And we will be reunited with our friends. It won’t be boring at all—just safer without pain, sickness and death. It’s okay to enjoy life on this earth as long as it doesn’t take away our love for God and other people.

    We are told in the Bible to even make houses and inhabit this earth. And Jesus tells us not to worry about tomorrow because today has enough trouble. But when all is said and done, if we live long enough in this world, we will experience pain and ruin and feel sad when our friends and family get sick and die. It gives me great comfort to know we can all have an amazing and beautiful life beyond this one.

    Remember Jesus gave us this world for now, He wants us to live our lives in anticipation of all the fun He has planned, but to love everyone we can into His kingdom while we are here so more people can live with God for eternity.

    I hope this helps a little,

    Cherilyn

  5. Cody Howell August 11, 2015 at 5:59 pm #

    Thanks it did help a little, it makes me feel alot better thinking of it the way u jusp put it!! Thx and God bless

  6. Martin Gye August 23, 2015 at 7:01 pm #

    I’m 16 years old and I’ve felt the same way. Last year in 2014 people, even my parents kept talking about the second coming of Christ, especially because a lot of bad things are talked about on the news. I was so scared I felt sick to my stomach. I couldn’t find a way to feel happy. I always felt guilty all the time and I got annoyed with people saying that this is the last of the last days that Jesus is coming back. It’s 2015 and I feel a lot better but still people are saying Jesus will come back and there are a lot of you tube videos that I see where people are saying that they have dreams and that we are literally in the end times. When I saw this I then started to feel scared, sometimes even annoyed. I also wonder did people ever talk about this in the 60’s or before this year? but part of me does feel good about the second coming.

  7. Cherilyn Clough August 24, 2015 at 10:59 am #

    Thank you for sharing Martin. I believe knowing Jesus–not the version of him that people preach at us, but really knowing him for who he is when we read the gospels allows his perfect love to take away our fear. May he fill you with peace!

  8. Cyril September 4, 2015 at 3:13 am #

    Thank you for sharing this for post for all the “Christphers” across the age spectrum. This is a most agreeable way to share the truth of why Jesus wants to be with us. Thank you!

  9. Cherilyn Clough September 4, 2015 at 11:01 am #

    Thank you Cyril for stopping by and for the encouragement.

  10. Brandi September 27, 2015 at 8:41 pm #

    This is one of the best articles I have ever read!! I came across it when searching for ways to help my 9 year old son not be afraid of Jesus’s coming. We were discussing the blood moon this evening with the older children and when it was bed time my son was crying and I asked why. He said he’s not ready for Jesus to come and was honestly very frightened…almost panicky! This lead into some discussion but I was honestly at a loss for words…who is afraid of heaven and why?! What have I said or done to scare him?! Well again this article meant a lot to me! Thanks for sharing!!

  11. Cherilyn Clough September 27, 2015 at 9:20 pm #

    Glad you were blessed Brandi and I’m praying that your son is comforted to know that Jesus and the Father both love him! Peace on your house!

  12. Amber Ray November 20, 2015 at 1:20 pm #

    I’m a 16 year old girl. And I was so scared of Jesus coming back. Of judgement day. Because often times I felt like I was only trying to get closer to God and whatnot, just so I wouldn’t have to go to Hell. And I realized that’s very selfish of me. After praying to God this afternoon for the longest time.. and reading the Bible.. and reading up on all of this.. and what you had to say.. it makes me less scared. It makes me feel as if a burden has been lifted off my chest. I want a clear heart and a clear mind for God to be apart of. And I believe I’m getting there slowly but surely. All I know now is that I want to be and feel okay. And I want to know that God is apart of my life. And that I believe in him. And Jesus. And all of this for the right reasons.

  13. Cherilyn Clough November 20, 2015 at 3:58 pm #

    Hi Amber,
    It warms my heart to know you are finding peace. I was once like you, afraid and scared of God until I realized Jesus said He and the Father are one. Now that I know they have the same mindset and character I can trust Jesus and the Father. The best thing we can do is live in harmony with God’s law of love. It’s really that simple. God bless you! 🙂

  14. Jill December 1, 2015 at 4:55 pm #

    Hello, do you think Jesus will come back to Me? I sinned against Him… I think there was one time in my life that I rejected Him. I was under oppression, I think… Then after I did that, the oppression stopped. Now I am afraid of God. I am not it peace. I need Him… I can’t do anything without Him. Thank you.

  15. Cherilyn Clough December 1, 2015 at 5:41 pm #

    Hi Jill,

    Yes, if your heart wants to know Jesus and be friends with him, he will most certainly come for you! 🙂

    How do I know this without even knowing what you have done? I don’t need to know what you have done, I just know Jesus and his character.

    Think of Mary Magdalene in the Bible who sinned seven times and came back to Jesus and He forgave her over and over. Jesus taught us to forgive 70×7 and if he didn’t forgive us, he would be a hypocrite.

    The Bible says our sins separate us from God, but not because God is holding out on us, but because the more we sin, the less we want to know and be in harmony with God.

    Even the worst sinners don’t have to be afraid of God, what we all need to fear is sin. God is the Life-giver but sin destroys our lives. Look at the way God uses his power–he came to live among us as a baby and died at the hands of his created beings. We have nothing to fear from a God like that and everything to gain from trusting him because he truly is trustworthy.

    Your post reveals that you want reconciliation with Jesus and Jesus says whoever comes to him, he will never cast out. So call on Him, pour out your heart to him as you would a friend. Jesus is your best friend, who always loves you unconditionally and forgives for everything you have ever done. He always has your best interest at heart.

    Jesus has promised to give you his peace. It might not come immediately, but keep asking and trusting and it will come!

    Thank you for stopping by and please message me if you have more questions.

    Cherilyn

  16. Pamela July 21, 2016 at 6:00 pm #

    I don’t know how it began but my fear of Jesus coming has made me so paranoid I been trying to read the bible and I know its more than just reading the bible I’m so scared about the world we living in right now that I even feel like I’m already to late I will be the left behind I really love God but I know I’m so scared of God and I really want you to pray for me because like I always say to myself I was born with Jesus I want to die with him in my heart but I need to change my heart I want to see a cloud and feel joy not fear

  17. Cherilyn Clough July 21, 2016 at 9:11 pm #

    Hi Pamela,

    You are so right in saying it is more than reading the Bible, sadly, some of the fear we have had about God came from people who read the Bible and choose to see only what they wanted to see and passed on lies about God to other people.

    It is not about reading the Bible as much as getting to know Jesus the person through the Bible. 1 John 4:18 tells is that perfect love casts out out fear. And the only perfect love I know is Jesus. I Corinthians 13 is called the love chapter, but it is even more than a beautiful passage to read at a wedding–it is a revealing of God’s character. For a comforting exercise, try reading it and substituting the word Jesus for the word love. Jesus is patient, Jesus is kind, Jesus envies no one, etc. This is the character of Jesus and the best way to not be afraid of Jesus is to know him. All love originated with God because God is love.

    If you live in harmony with God’s love and treat other people as you would like to be treated, you never have to be afraid of being left behind. Remember the sheep and the goats, Jesus defined the people he knows by how they love other people. It is very easy to listen to the lies of God’s enemy and sometimes this comes through our abusers, but when we use the Bible to refute those lies, we discover we are indeed cherished and the beloved of Jesus. I think you have inspired me to write more about this in a future blog,s o keep watching.

    I care, so please write me with more questions if you have them. Meanwhile I would like to pray for you.

    Dear Jesus,
    You have heard Pamela’s heart cries even the words she cannot say out loud, your Spirit will interprets and soothe her in your name. I pray that she will learn more about your character so she can fully trust you and know that she is your cherished child forever and you would never leave her behind. Rebuke the lies of the enemy so she can hear your voice and know you and follow you. Amen.

    I will keep you in prayer this week, Pamela!

    Peace and freedom (the peace and freedom that can only come from God) to you!

    Cherilyn

  18. Khalil October 2, 2016 at 6:40 pm #

    Pray for me I’m scared because that maybe I won’t be with God I want to I want to go to heaven and be with him but I just don’t k o why but I get scared of it when I see people say he coming back I would rather die and then go with him not be here as a human and he come back and maybe leave me with Satan

  19. Cherilyn Clough October 9, 2016 at 8:38 pm #

    Hi Kalil,

    Okay here is something that might help you. God gave you and everyone else in this world freedom of choice. That means God won’t push himself on you, but lets you decide if you want to live according to his law of love where you treat others as you would like to be treated.

    In the same way God gives you freedom and won’t force himself on you, he won’t let Satan force himself on you either. The bottom line about God is that he always, always honors your choices so if you don’t want Satan in your life, God won’t let Satan force himself on you.

    You might know religious people who gave you lots of rules and tell you that you have to do all these things to be saved. The secret is love. The ten commandments are all about love–Jesus explained the first four commandments are about love to God and the last six are about love to our fellow human beings.

    Jesus makes salvation more simple than people do–He simply says to live our lives in other-centered love. Also did you know the root word for salvation is salvo which also means healing? This is what God wants to do is heal all of us from this selfish sin condition.

    Love is the answer and the opposite of selfishness, but how do we know how to love? Look at Jesus and how he loved! The four gospels are great reading. They show us how Jesus treated sinners and outcasts and the way he treated them is exactly how he treats us when we sin or feel shut out. As a matter of fact, you are never alone. Jesus is always with you, looking out for you and loving and forgiving you.

    This is what it means in 1 John 4:18-19, when it says perfect love takes away our fear. This perfect love is the love we see in Jesus. Jesus doesn’t want to surprise you or scare you, he wants to heal you! He loves you! No matter what you have done or who you are, you are important to to Jesus!

    Read about him, talk to him and follow him and you will never have to be afraid again friend!

    Peace and blessings on you!

    Cherilyn

  20. Me233 October 15, 2016 at 3:43 pm #

    Hi,,,am also going through a lot of paranoia on the coming of Jesus such that i have fallen away from the Word of God.I even keep having nightmares,i got so scared that i ended up trying not to think of it,or even read the Bible or pray.It has gotten to a point where i wish all that is in the Bible was all fiction,but i know deep down that it is the Truth.Please help me on how to get rid of this,i often miss the word of God but its difficult for me to go back and read it.Please help..

  21. Cherilyn Clough October 28, 2016 at 1:27 pm #

    Dear Me233,

    If only you knew how much Jesus loves you and has good plans for you! God is not the way some people have made him out to be. He will always honor your choice. How do we know this? Look around at all the evil in this world. If God was out to punish evil doers, they would all be dead right now. But instead, he allows all of our choices to play out. No matter what we have done if we choose to follow Jesus, we have nothing to fear from God.

    Sometimes people fear Jesus coming because it has been taught with judgment because the Bible says he is coming back with everyone’s reward. Try to think of a doctor looking at a patients chart. He will make a diagnosis but the doctor doesn’t try to harm the patient. When he says heart disease or cancer, it’s not because the doctor made them sick, the doctor sees the disease and then decided how to treat it.

    When Jesus comes back the judgment will be like the doctor making a diagnosis. In Revelation it says, he will say he who is filthy will be filthy still and he who is clean will be clean still. This is to say all of us will have made our choices by that time to follow Jesus or reject him. If you choose to know Jesus and follow him in unselfish living and caring for other people, you will have nothing to fear when Jesus comes. Remember Jesus says, “They will know you are my friends if you have love for each other.”

    And John (who walked and ate with Jesus) says perfect love will cast out all of our fear. well Jesus is that perfect love! Read the gospels and get to know Jesus and you will never be scared again!

    Peace and freedom to you!

    Cherilyn

  22. Al November 15, 2016 at 4:57 pm #

    He will be back within 10 years. Wish it was sooner. This world is so broken. I used to believe the lie of evolution and lived like the advanced chimp I thought I was. About 6 months ago I read the bible for the first time and it felt so true and convicted me of my sinful nature and former unbelief. I switched my worldly hippy view much more to the biblical view and am disgusted at both my former life and this appalling world of lies,violence and inequality. Don’t know if my former secular views will be forgiven but I know the saviour will make the world a better place whether I am in it or not. PS Obama is white horse of revelation 6:2. Resist the mark….it’s coming

  23. Cherilyn Clough November 15, 2016 at 5:44 pm #

    Hi Al,
    It’s good news that you have discovered the beauty of Jesus! It does seem like Jesus could come sooner than ever, but as a child whose parents refused me an education because Jesus was coming, I am very cautious about setting even vague dates. We just don’t really know. Jesus says even the angels in heaven don’t know.
    You have the right to believe what you want, but I also don’t believe Obama is the fulfillment of the white horse–besides in a couple months he will be a low player in the world scene. As for Revelation, I’ve heard many theories on that. Here is a website by some friends of mine about God which has lots of teachings about Revelation.
    http://godscharacter.com/
    Meanwhile I would like to reassure you about God forgiving your past. Of course He will! God’s number one goal is for all of us who are willing to be in heaven.
    The majority of Christians teach religion through what is called a Roman law construct. It was not in the Bible, but is actually the result of mistranslations and misunderstandings about God based on what some people thought in the dark ages. In this view God is out to punish those who sin.
    I embrace the healing model which is found throughout the Bible and explains how instead of punishing us for sinning, God wants to heal and transform our hearts from the sinners we were to those who are living in peace and love and harmony with God. When this healing takes place we are then safe to live with God and others throughout eternity.

    The Bible says our sins are forgiven and thrown in the sea. The minute you chose to walk with God, you began to heal and become a safer person. We are all a work in progress and we may never stop sinning entirely, but we will love God and others better and better as we grow in a relationship with Jesus.

    Peace and freedom to you!
    Cherilyn

  24. Joe Robinson December 1, 2016 at 4:55 pm #

    Hello, in the past week I have had the Second Coming on my mind a lot. In fact, just yesterday, a story popped up of a burnt Bible page foretelling the Second Coming that was found in the Tennessee wildfires. I am very scared about Jesus’s coming and can’t relax. I am losing sleep over it and terrified and can’t seem to shake it off. I am scared about the moment he appears and how terrifying it will be. I know the bible talks about the world mourning when Jesus appears and I am scared for that moment he appears and if it will be scary. I also am worried I will not be worthy enough to make into heaven. I want to view the Father and the Son as loving, but I am scared. I try and pray, but sometimes I don’t feel like they are effective. I hope that all makes sense and you could help me.

  25. Cherilyn Clough December 2, 2016 at 11:38 am #

    Hi Joe,

    You said the earth will mourn when Jesus comes. I am thinking you are referring to Matthew 24:30.
    The next verse says this:
    “And he will send his angels with a loud trumpet call, and they will gather his elect from the four winds, from one end of the heavens to the other.” (Matt. 24:31)
    His elect means his chosen ones or those who choose Jesus. For those who love Jesus there will be no fear or mourning. For these people, seeing Jesus is like seeing a friend. When your friends come over do you mourn?
    I think a lot of people think of God’s power and confuse him with a bully. But look at how Jesus used his power.
    Jesus came as a baby needing humans to take care of him. And even though he did lots of miracles (and they were good miracles nothing mean or tricky) he still let humans beat him and kill him. If you want to see how God uses his power, look at the cross. The Father didn’t kill Jesus–people killed Jesus!
    The Father was hidden–only so Jesus could go through baring our sins and being alone so he could conquer sin and death. He did this for you–not to you! Jesus doesn’t kill people and if you read the Sermon on the Mount where he tells us to love our enemies that is how God is! God would be the biggest hypocrite of all if he said forgive seventy times seven and then didn’t forgive us! And even in the cross, Jesus said, “Father forgive them–for they know not what they do!”
    So if God forgives, why will the earth mourn? Because even though God forgives, there will be evil people who do not forgive and don’t care if God forgives. These people are so selfish and damaged by sin that they only care about themselves. They abuse other people. They hate instead of love. They mourn because they are so out of harmony with God’s loving ways that they can’t stand him.
    There will be two groups of people watching Jesus come–those who love God and others, and those who hate. When Jesus sets up his kingdom on earth, it will be a kingdom of love and there will be no more hate or selfishness.
    The haters will by their own choice choose death over life because they don’t want to let go of their vengeance and hate. But those who love others will be relieved to see Jesus come. If you are more of a lover than a hater, you will have no reason to fear meeting Jesus.
    If you want to know what Jesus’s kingdom will look like, read the gospels. The more you know what Jesus is like, the less you will be afraid. When Jesus went back to heaven, he didn’t change his character. The angels told his disciples, “This SAME Jesus will return.” So unless you are afraid of Jesus making people walk and see again and feeding thousands, you won’t find any reason to be afraid. The secret is to know Jesus and love people like he does.
    None of us are worthy of heaven, that’s why we are grateful for God’s grace. God’s grace is why Jesus died to show us how to love and live better lives. When we mess up, we ask forgiveness and do our best, the good news is we are loved dearly by God and his grace covers us.

    In case you are scared of the Father–
    Jesus says
    “The Father and I are one.”
    “If you’ve seen me, you’ve seen the Father.”
    This means their characters are the same. He even said
    “The time will come when I no longer pray to the Father for you, because the Father himself loves you!”
    If you read the gospels and pray, your prayers will feel more effective because it will help you know if you are praying in harmony with God’s love.

    Peace and freedom to you!

    Cherilyn

  26. crystaljoy523 December 22, 2016 at 8:18 pm #

    Hi,
    I’m honestly so scared and paranoid of the second coming. I have been reading the Bible, but I’m still scared. I’ve heard that only a few will get into heaven, while so many people will try to, and I’m scared that I won’t get in. I’m only 13, and I’m really terrified of the marks on people’s foreheads and the description of the second coming. I feel like I’ve made too much of a home out of this Earth, and I’ve gotten too used to it. I have drifted apart from God lately? And I don’t know how to come back to him, but I desperately want to. I have this paranoia that maybe I don’t love Jesus or other people enough, and I overthink. I can’t sleep at night because I think so much about it, and I’m so worried my past actions will block me from getting closer to God and heaven. Please pray for me. I need God’s peace.

    Thank you so much.

  27. Cherilyn Clough December 22, 2016 at 9:32 pm #

    Hi Crystal,

    Something that makes all the stuff in Revelation so scary is that people take it literally which means just like it reads, but the beasts and the mark of the beast are not actual things, but word pictures. The mark of the Beast in the hand and the forehead have been determined by many scholars to say that the mark symbolizes what someone thinks in their head and does with their hands. So this might not be a physical mark but symbolizes the way we think and behave.

    That said, we don’t want to think like the beast. The beast uses power over other people. While Jesus doesn’t. In Philippians 2, Jesus is described as being the servant of all. This is the way to heaven to love and serve other people. If we choose to follow Jesus and treat other people with love and not use our power over them, we have nothing to be afraid of when Jesus comes. It will be like meeting a friend and going into a life with all kinds of cool things and loving people. It will be way better than going to Disney World. You will be able to fly and play with animals and learn new stuff in fun ways and no one will ever get sick or killed. Jesus is coming to rescue you from the sad things in this world, not hurt you!

    If you get to know Jesus better, it will help you be less scared. Read John or Mark or Luke or Matthew and think about what it might be to be a thirteen year old girl in the first century and listen to Jesus telling stories and making a miracle of bread and fishes to feed thousands from one kid’s lunch. Imagine how it was for Jairus’s daughter who died to wake up with Jesus holding her hand and telling her to get up and eat something.

    You are very precious to Jesus and as important to him as these kids in the Bible! He won’t abuse your or manipulate you. He simply loves you and wants to have a friendship with you. John who knew Jesus when he was a teenager says that the perfect love of Jesus takes away our fear. So whenever you are afraid read the 23rd Psalm and remember that Jesus is the good Shepherd or read the gospels and imagine yourself there.

    Dear Jesus,
    Please show Crystal that you are her friend and no one to be afraid of and that you have good plans for her life. Help her to sleep in peace knowing that you care about every detail about her even to counting the hairs on her head and that you sing over her when she is sleeping. Let her feel your love and know You as she reads the Bible. Amen.

    Blessings on you Crystal!

    Jesus loves you!

    Cherilyn

  28. August December 25, 2016 at 1:49 am #

    Thank you for posting this, it’s really alleviating to see there are many people going through the same or similar situations. I’m 16 and my main fear I have is that I don’t think I’ve ever been taught what it means to be truly saved. When I think of what it would look like to be truly saved I almost imagine a Buddha like idea where you completely rebuke all earthly things and are some kind of Guru that can hear everything God is saying to you all the time. This scares me because I’m nowhere near that and I don’t know how to get there. I love some earthly things (like my family and my house etc) and I fear that that’s bad because what if I’m putting them above Jesus? I know what it feels like to love a friend or a parent or a really good book or something but I don’t have the same feeling towards Jesus or the Bible even though I really want to. Also is there any recommendations of certain chapters of the Bible I could read that speak on this issue? Thanks again for the blog post.

  29. Cherilyn Clough December 25, 2016 at 9:59 am #

    Hi August,

    You are definitely not alone, someone writes me about this every week lately and I used to feel this way myself so I am glad to help if I can.

    One thing that really helped me was to learn the Greek word Sozo which means salvation also means healing. If you can think of salvation like being healed or healthy it might help. No of us want to be sick, we want to be healthy and strong. Jesus came to take away our sickness of selfishness (all sin boils down to selfishness) and restore us to healthy loving.

    Jesus, as the Creator, created the family and relationships. Unless you are choosing to do evil in the form of loving your family, Jesus is happy for you to love them.

    Jesus is also NOT angry that you might not feel love for him like you do for your family. Love comes through knowing someone and as a young person growing up, you might not now Jesus all that much. Only by love is love awakened–that’s why Jesus came to live among us and die for us so we could realize His love. We can’t love him until we see him and what he has done and realize how much he loves us–so much that he did not come into the world to condemn us. (John 3:17) Jesus is not waiting to catch you in a crime, he is waiting for you to see that he has been here all along watching over your life and caring for you.

    The best way to love Jesus is to get to know him and that happens through reading the Bible and specifically I would say the gospels.

    Yes, Jesus wants you to be ready so he can take you to heaven, but he also wants to help you have the best life now while you are living on earth.

    When you read the gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John) Try to just read one story at a time and imagine yourself in that story seeing Jesus and hearing his words spoken into your life.

    Many people find it comforting to read just a story a day in the morning or before they go to bed and just ask Jesus to bless as they read. Jesus has no hidden agenda–he just wants to help you have a better life now and a wonderful magical life in the new earth!

    Jesus does not speak all his thoughts to us like the Budda example you stated. He gave us brains to reason and learn and study for ourselves and prayer is really a friendship with God.

    John 14-17 has some good passages about what Jesus dreams for his people, but you might find the stories quite interesting too. So Maybe just open up the book of Luke and start reading. Blessings on you!

    Peace and freedom always come through Jesus!

    Cherilyn

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